The thing about coming out .. is that you'll hear people who have done it say how much better they feel to get it off their chest .. etc. It sounds like a bunch of bull, but it isn't.
For most people who are still in the closet, they will intentionally try and hide any indicators that they're gay/bi/whatever. They have to constantly watch what they say, and how they act to keep it a secret. Thoughts are constantly going through your/their head saying "what if they found out? what will happen? will they hate me? will they kill me?"
Now you're thinking .. if they're going to hate me, why should I tell them? Well, I guess that's your problem to work out. But if they're going to dislike you for who you really are, do you really want to be around them? This is the hardest boundary to cross when coming out.
Once you've decided to actually do it, it takes a lot of courage to sit down and be able to tell someone your close to about your secret. But once you do, you no longer have to hide who you are. You can make little remarks around your friends saying "hey! he's cute!" and they'll say something like "yep." Most of my friends have a new respect for me since I'm gay. But, once you tell them .. you really do feel like you're on top of the world.
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