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Originally Posted by Bulvox
If I were to come out and my bestfriend didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore, does that make them a bad friend? What do you think?
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Originally Posted by Bulvox
See he is a good friend though, he has done stuff to prove that. He has taken the blame for stuff, that he did with me but it made me look like I did it all. I mean he is a really good friend. I know that he wouldn't want to have anything to do with me if I did come out. That's why I don't want to come out, I want to be able to have guy friends, not just all girl friends. I want to be accepted as much as everyone else. It just frustrates me so much.  |
As someone has mentioned earlier in this thread being gay is certainly not easy. With that being said you need to really take things slow and gradually get your friend used to the idea that you are gay. Coming out suddenly may be too much of a shock for him, and you need to give him time to get used to the idea that even though you are gay that you are not any different prior to coming out. Homosexuality is a very touchy subject as a result of cultural mores, societal pressures, and religious beliefs. Your friend is not a bad person if he freaks out because our upbringing makes us who we are, and if homosexuality is something that was ingrained within him to looked on as being bad, then you can't suddenly come out to him. Sooner or later he is going to figure out that you are gay, but just continue to be his good friend no matter what. Like he cannot impose his beliefs upon you, you certainly cannot do the same on him. Above all else you need to emphasize that you are friends no matter how you work biologically and that friendship doesn't imply that you want to do anything with him sexually.