Well it sounds to me like you can just throw yourself under the umbrella term of bisexuality. As long as you can get it up for both guys and girls, then you're bi, at least according to me. Some people say that your orientation is whatever you prefer the most, but if that were the case then almost noone would be bi because almost no bi guy likes both guys and girls equally. Personally, I find guys so much more attractive than girls, it's almost like just raw attraction towards them, but I am attracted to girls as well, just not quite in the same manner. It's hard to describe. When I see a hot girl, I don't think about getting in her pants, I simply stop thinking and all that goes through my mind is how pretty she is. If you can imagine the stereotypical guy looking at a hot girl like an idiot, that's what my mind is like at that point in time. That is the first stage of attraction to girls for me. For guys... if I see a hot guy, I immediately start hoping that he is gay or bi, and I wonder what he looks like without a shirt on.
Like I said, there's different degrees of attraction and different types of attraction, but it is attraction nonetheless. That's the wonderful thing about sexuality: it's ambiguous and isn't truly classifiable. Each person has a unique orientation because of the different ways they can be attracted to different people.
The point is, you shouldn't worry about how to define yourself, just know that on some level you know what you like, and that it doesn't need to be described. What good does describing your orientation do, other than give it a name? It's better, at least during this stage of confusion for you, to just let it be and if it really matters later on, figure it out then when you've experimented and have a better grasp of what you like.
As for your co-worker, I'd just like to tell you thanks for sticking up for him. It's not every day that someone who doesn't define themselves as gay or bi (at least not openly) tries to defend someone who is. I'm sure he appreciates it.
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