deni_kaos

mines boring too...

i just started telling people, because they noticed i never said anything about liking anyone at school.

and then i told my parents because they asked...

they werent ok, but we had a lot of other family issues to deal with, so eventually we took care of those because the whole gay thing didnt seem as important as keeping the family together.

now my parents are for the most part ok. my dad is still a little apprehensive and tries to convice himself otherwise, but my mom is kinda turning into my gal pal, asking me about interior design and how cute those sunglasses are... stuff like that

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RockoV

I just told some friends, and they did the job, my parents, they are in denial but they already know

actor, semi musician,oral fixation, has a lot of girl friends, my guy friends treat me like a girl hahahahaha, they have a very clear idea. just never accept it

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sexypandaguy

i slowly one by one told all my friends, now iam more open about it when some asks...i still havent told my parents yet though....but i plan to in a week or so.

Shinigami

I came out to several of my closest friends and their A-OK with me being gay. We often go to raves, get drunk and go wild. In fact, their curious about me now. I feel special....And now for FAMILY :-O

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Jamd

I did it yesterday.
i was sitting in the kitchen with my mom and she was talking about how everyone turns their back on you when you make mistakes and she told me, 'you know i have an open mind and that i'll never abandon you. i just don't want other people running to me and talking shit and me not being prepared with a fuck you' (i love it when she speaks) and i just said, 'is this the gay thing? 'cause i couldn't care less if what people think about me, as long as they send me a card on my birthday'
then she said stuff about extortion and 'we're gonna have to sit down and have a mother to daught- son chat' lol, it rocked.

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greenskittles

^ wow, your mom sounds awesome. thats the way it should be for everyone

Rhodanum

Coming out... a sensitive issue (in more ways than one, I'd say).

The first person with whom I openly discussed my sexual orientation was Mother, almost three years ago. She was busy cooking in the kitchen and I was helping her slice the vegetables (with a little more brutality than was necessary! XD) when I simply felt as if I was on the verge of an explosion if I didn't say or do something.

So I had her sit down and told her. She... was quite shocked, to say the least and even after several hours looked as if she were ready to burst into tears at the slightest touch. She kept assuring me that everything was fine, that it wasn't a problem, but I could see the truth clearly in her eyes. She was heartbroken. And I was left feeling lower than dirt - both for what I was and for the fact that I had dared to dump such a crushing weight onto her already overworked shoulders. Frankly, I hated myself then.

After a few months of avoiding the issue, she came up to me and asked -- with such a vibrant spark of hope in her voice! -- if it had all been nothing more than a passing teenage phase. And I said yes. Because I couldn't bear to hurt her a second time, I preferred to lie through my teeth and be alone in my knowledge once more.

The next people to know where two best friends, two years ago - one of whom even became my girlfriend for the next nine months (the relationship finally broke off because she simply couldn't stand doing almost everything in paranoiac secrecy and in fear of being discovered, hidden away in dark, dank corners).

Finally, another discussion with Mother came about two weeks ago, when I finally decided to pull my damn head out of the sand and publicly assume my sexual orientation by participating in Romania's fifth Gay Pride Parade. Naturally, she wanted to know why I was so adamant about participating and I had to tell her again - and beg for her forgiveness for any pain that I had caused her. In the end, she accepted it all - with a rather sad smile - and told me that I was still her child, no matter what.

Now the next bastion to be conquered is Father. He already knowns, I think, but is waiting for me to feel comfortable enough in approaching him - which I feel rather hesitant about. Although the two of us have always been very close, he's never hid his ironic disdain towards the LGBT community (whose members he considers promiscuous, vulgar and socially unacceptable).

I have a hard case ahead of me, I think!

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rileycoyote

I never really came out, I think i'm just one those guys that it's pretty obvious that I'm gay (i'm not girly or camp, but people have just always assumed i'm gay). if anyone asks me if I'm gay i'll say yes, but i don't think i've ever initiated a conversation about it myself.
my parents know i'm gay too, without me telling them. my mom just asked me one day if a guy I was hanging out with was my boyfriend (which he was). I said yes & she said she was glad cos she liked my boyfriend. my dad's a bit more awkward about it, but I remember one time we were having a dinner party & one of the guys there made a joke about gay people & my dad said something like 'don't make jokes like that in my house, otherwise you can get the hell out'. after the party I said 'thanks for saying that' and he told me loved me .... it sounds corny, but it really felt amazing when he said that.

Seth

Told all of my friends not good enough to keep my secret, but good enough to not be a dick and make a massive deal out of it.

I came out of second lesson, and had 502 txts.

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dragon072891

my coming out was fast,,

after i told my mother,, the nest day i told EVERYONE, and with the help of my best friend, everyone knew within two days.......

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Mike

Parents:

I flew across the country to see my man at the time. I came up with a cleaver disguise; a national competition that both of us were involved in, so no one would know. Sadly, his parents wouldn't let him go (which I found out right before I left). When I was talking to my mom, she asked me about a comment that I put in my away message (to someone with a guy's name) .. and then I told her that I was bi. That was in 2006. My mom kind of accepted it .. thinking bi was better than gay. To my dad it didn't matter. He had a 6 hour monologue with me when I got back about how wrong I was. It was horrible. I was dumped about 6 weeks after this happened.

Ironically, I had another chance to go back to the same event in 2007. He was going to be there this time, but I wanted to go anyways (not because of him, but because of the event). I had already talked to my mom about it and him being there .. so that wasn't a surprise. I ran into him a few times, and we went on a little walk and talked for awhile. It ended really badly, with me walking off at his request .. crying. Depressed once again, my mom could hear it in my voice, when I told her that I wasn't bi anymore .. but gay. Once again, she mostly accepted it. We decided it would be better if we didn't tell my dad about it. So .. my mom knows I'm gay .. my dad thinks I'm bi and in denial .. and we just don't bring it up. My brother and his wife knows .. my brother thought it was cool. The rest of the family has no idea.

Friends:

I was really straight acting around most of my friends for a very long time. I came out to them as bi in early 2006. Most were REALLY surprised, but some said they could tell the whole time. 6 months later, I changed it to gay .. and started to get really comfortable with it. Apparently I act really gay around the people that I hang out with often. Everyone else that interacts with me (including my coworkers, etc), still have no idea. Unless one of my friends told you already .. you'd have no idea. I have no problem telling someone (non-family) that I'm gay .. but there has to be a reason for it .. I don't just run around saying it .. I also like to test the waters, since some people have a major problem with it.

kenster

I came out to my friend Becca/Amy over msn lol..
Becca turned out to be bi and amy cried because she was totally in love with me. And being gay and all!! SHE CANT HAVE ME! LOL but we're closer than ever.

And my mom, she kinda figured it out.. I was at my depressed stage in live, and she asked me that "Is it about girls" and I was like no..then she was like, Oh, i get it.
But, I didnt actually TELL HER till like 3 weeks after that...She was fine with it, besides the part she now wants me to get baptized. IM NOT FUCKIN GETTING BAPTIZED INTO SOMETHING I DONT BELIEVE IN!! Thats what I said lol

jspoons1293

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!
your dad's awesome for doing that.

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iop92

That is nice, but I really don't mind jokes. Not gay, Jewish, whatever. On the other hand, I like them.

jspoons1293

I don't mind jokes either, but I get pissed off if the person doesn't realize that their joke can be offensive. As long as they realize that, I'm fine with the joke, but if they say it like noone cares, I get pissed off.

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