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MasterChris

Umm I felt bad not telling then because they tell me everything. Also it feels better to do it. Just gonna be telling my family soon.

bibutbabyigetit

My initial coming out was actually sort of a mistake. Not that I view coming out in general as a mistake, but the way I did it was definitely a mistake. It's doing it for your family that's the hardest, especially if you know what they expect of you and are afraid to hurt them.

Don't be. They're your parents. They may have strong views about what you should and shouldn't do, but they hopelessly love you anyway. Even if it doesn't seem like it.

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theaznway

My friend introduced me to this guy and I fell for him in like 2 days so I decided I couldn't ignore it anymore and I told my friend. Which sucked cuz she had feelings for me at the time.

NYCxPerks

um my reason was probably because the guy i liked asked me and i felt bad lying to him and i just wanted to see what he would say... than after that it felt so great i just started telling everyone i wanted to tell

but yeah if he never would have asked me i never would have came out yet

Angelknight18

I honestly came out because I was tired of lying to my friends and my family. Like when my friends would ask if that girl his hot i'd be like "eh, she is ok" when really I wasn't even attracted to her.

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killingloneliness

it was eating away at me and i needed to tell somebody. and i knew i wouldnt be happy untilk i did. when i came out as bi it was really tough, now coming out as gay is really really easy. every1 accepts it

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Plastic

You could kill yourself for using an annoying font, it's the first post, obviously people are going to read it, otherwise why would they have clicked on the thread?

I came out because I felt the time was right, you will know when you're ready.

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Shinigami

I'm not sure about coming out, I'm out to several friends but I don't really want to leave it to the last minute about my family...They've made jokes about matters like this, so of course, I've had to play along with their whole concept. In my family, issues like these aren't ones that you can sit down and talk about freely because my family are against homosexuality and would probably think different about me. Of course, it would make me feel better...I could get that of my chest...maybe when I'm a lil' older...yeah...when I'm a man.

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Rhodanum

Your comment is rather surprising, you know that? I was always of the belief that the United Kingdom's citizens were very open-minded about such matters (or perhaps it's simply your family in particular?)

I've grown to feel a little envious towards those living in Western Europe of the US simply because I believe that their lives are much, much easier than mine and that they don't have to put up with as much bloody crap as I have to over here .Eastern Europe still is Homophobia Central, from many points of view. Example: I was assaulted in the middle of the street twice, spat, cursed and laughed at simply because.... I wear my hair cropped short (!!!) Being biologically female means that I have to go through a lot of flack whenever I break the socially acceptable gender rules (which I constantly do! )


Anyway, not to be off-topic... I simply couldn't stand the horrific silence and the completely crippling sensation of loneliness anymore. I wanted to tear off my oh-so hated mask, to be myself, faults and all, leaving every single pretense aside. I wanted to be honest -- both with myself and with those that I care for. I hated the lies, the duplicity, the assumptions, the feeling of being so far removed from those who would truly understand, lost in the middle of a sea of strangers...

In the end, it was a question of mental sanity -- either I let the floodgates fall and poured every last drop of bitterness out of me, of I let myself be completely consumed by it.

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Mike

The thing about coming out .. is that you'll hear people who have done it say how much better they feel to get it off their chest .. etc. It sounds like a bunch of bull, but it isn't.

For most people who are still in the closet, they will intentionally try and hide any indicators that they're gay/bi/whatever. They have to constantly watch what they say, and how they act to keep it a secret. Thoughts are constantly going through your/their head saying "what if they found out? what will happen? will they hate me? will they kill me?"

Now you're thinking .. if they're going to hate me, why should I tell them? Well, I guess that's your problem to work out. But if they're going to dislike you for who you really are, do you really want to be around them? This is the hardest boundary to cross when coming out.

Once you've decided to actually do it, it takes a lot of courage to sit down and be able to tell someone your close to about your secret. But once you do, you no longer have to hide who you are. You can make little remarks around your friends saying "hey! he's cute!" and they'll say something like "yep." Most of my friends have a new respect for me since I'm gay. But, once you tell them .. you really do feel like you're on top of the world.

dragon072891

i need some new sunglasses btw =]]


but i couldnt lie to myself or anyone else anymore, so i went out with a bang and told everyone, including family, in a two day time span

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Queer Lemon

i was tired of people asking me and having to say no, to lie, and then my closer friends began to protect me from people who asked, they defended me and didnt really know the truth. it hurts them and me. so i started openly dating a guy at school. and people started to understand.

but then i was finally FORCED out in feb when cops pulled up to the car i was having sex in and brought me to the office while the entire school watched the walk to my doom. it finally clicked in all of their heads. i cant decide to this day if i did it on purpose or not.

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