um...help!?!?!

la-bean! · 05-07-2008, 07:19 PM

ok, i'm 14 and gay, and i have only told a few of my close friends that i'm gay. I have this female-friend(amber), who doesn't know i'm gay. She and I and a bunch of friends were all jsut talkin, and one of her friends told me that amber likes me. Amber heard this, and for the past few days things have been awkward. we haven't really talked to each other much. I don't want to hurt her by giving her false hope. I was thinking about telling her and a bunch of other female-friends all at once, but now i think i have to tell her soon. I don't know if i should bring up the fact that she likes me when I come out to her. Plz help! i only have a few oppurtunities to be alone with her, so I REALY need help SOON! thx, bye!

NYCxPerks · 05-08-2008, 03:58 PM

huhh well i think you should just tell her and pretend you know nothing about her liking you... maybe then she will realize that its obviously never going to work. but you defiantly should tell her

la-bean! · 05-08-2008, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by NYCxPerks

huhh well i think you should just tell her and pretend you know nothing about her liking you... maybe then she will realize that its obviously never going to work. but you defiantly should tell her

she was rite there wen i heard

Senile Strudel · 05-09-2008, 04:23 AM

just tell her that ur gay

worrying about hurting her feelings isn't going to help either way

by not telling her and giving her false hopes is only going to make things harder when you finally do tell her

be honest it usually seems to be easier that way

NYCxPerks · 05-09-2008, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Senile Strudel

just tell her that ur gay

worrying about hurting her feelings isn't going to help either way

by not telling her and giving her false hopes is only going to make things harder when you finally do tell her

be honest it usually seems to be easier that way

i agree lol

PandaMonium · 05-12-2008, 02:13 AM

It seems that she's rather embarrassed by the fact that you know of her feelings... as such, I'm of the opinion that you should refrain from mentioning her affections while coming out to her. If she herself brings it up, then by all means; but, otherwise... just follow her lead. If she truly 'likes' you as much as she does, then I'm sure you'll both be laughing about this little turn of events in the not-so-distant future.

Joshy Squashy · 05-21-2008, 08:56 AM

i wouldn't worry about telling her...

Unless she's a vindictive bitch who will use it against you.

or if you're not comfortable with that, tell her you're simply not interested and stop worrying about telling her your true sexuality.

with that option you're not giving her false hope and you can steal conceal your sexuality for the time being.

josh

greenskittles · 05-23-2008, 09:29 AM

i think telling a group of girls together would be the best way to do it

mickiestar92 · 05-23-2008, 10:09 AM

i think you should tell her. It's probably the best thing to do.

Shinigami · 05-23-2008, 11:05 AM

Tell the other girls, maybe they can help you break it easily to her this way and perhaps explain the situation, with some support too.

Nuclear_Nolan · 05-23-2008, 09:14 PM

I was in a similar situation, tell her youre just not interested, if you drag this out too far, it could have some major repercussions, jut tell her the truth and dont lead her on to beleive
ANYTHING
If you want to ome out, then you should(girls tend to be more accepting)
If not, just give it time, dont rush youreself, youre still young.

05-07-2008, 07:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
la-bean! Official GTF Member Join Date: May 2008 Age: 14 Gender: Posts: 19	um...help!?!?! ok, i'm 14 and gay, and i have only told a few of my close friends that i'm gay. I have this female-friend(amber), who doesn't know i'm gay. She and I and a bunch of friends were all jsut talkin, and one of her friends told me that amber likes me. Amber heard this, and for the past few days things have been awkward. we haven't really talked to each other much. I don't want to hurt her by giving her false hope. I was thinking about telling her and a bunch of other female-friends all at once, but now i think i have to tell her soon. I don't know if i should bring up the fact that she likes me when I come out to her. Plz help! i only have a few oppurtunities to be alone with her, so I REALY need help SOON! thx, bye!

05-08-2008, 03:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
NYCxPerks Official GTF Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: NYC Age: 14 Gender: Posts: 129	huhh well i think you should just tell her and pretend you know nothing about her liking you... maybe then she will realize that its obviously never going to work. but you defiantly should tell her __________________ And, who can say what we are? This is the season for Dreaming...

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Shinigami Official GTF Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: At the desk Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 226	Tell the other girls, maybe they can help you break it easily to her this way and perhaps explain the situation, with some support too. __________________ Kuroi Torikago (Original) - Kanon Wakeshima: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1p0lK_tS5I "Please watch, comment, rate, support and anything else...much thanks" Visit Kanon Wakeshima's Home page: http://www.kanonweb.jp/ Toggle from Japanese to English by clicking the "English page" button.

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05-09-2008, 04:23 AM	#4 (permalink)
Senile Strudel Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Edgewater Gender: Posts: 14	just tell her that ur gay worrying about hurting her feelings isn't going to help either way by not telling her and giving her false hopes is only going to make things harder when you finally do tell her be honest it usually seems to be easier that way

05-12-2008, 02:13 AM	#6 (permalink)
PandaMonium Official GTF Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Long Island, New York Gender: Posts: 4	It seems that she's rather embarrassed by the fact that you know of her feelings... as such, I'm of the opinion that you should refrain from mentioning her affections while coming out to her. If she herself brings it up, then by all means; but, otherwise... just follow her lead. If she truly 'likes' you as much as she does, then I'm sure you'll both be laughing about this little turn of events in the not-so-distant future.

05-21-2008, 08:56 AM	#7 (permalink)
Joshy Squashy Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Aurora, CO Gender: Posts: 133	i wouldn't worry about telling her... Unless she's a vindictive bitch who will use it against you. or if you're not comfortable with that, tell her you're simply not interested and stop worrying about telling her your true sexuality. with that option you're not giving her false hope and you can steal conceal your sexuality for the time being. josh

05-23-2008, 09:29 AM	#8 (permalink)
greenskittles Official GTF Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Toronto Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 69	i think telling a group of girls together would be the best way to do it

05-23-2008, 10:09 AM	#9 (permalink)
mickiestar92 Official GTF Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: maine Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 33	i think you should tell her. It's probably the best thing to do.

05-23-2008, 09:14 PM	#11 (permalink)
Nuclear_Nolan Official GTF Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Texas Gender: Posts: 14	I was in a similar situation, tell her youre just not interested, if you drag this out too far, it could have some major repercussions, jut tell her the truth and dont lead her on to beleive ANYTHING If you want to ome out, then you should(girls tend to be more accepting) If not, just give it time, dont rush youreself, youre still young.