...my parents are OBLIVIOUS. (A question)

Call Me Irresponsible · 01-17-2008, 01:47 PM

Okay, so I'm out to every single one of my friends and acquaintances. Every single one of my friends are gay and my parent's know that. I'm out to my brother. I love musicals and theater. I'm in my school chorus and jazz chorus. I have NEVER had a girlfriend. WHY DO MY PARENTS THINK I'M STRAIGHT?! I've been dropping hints like crazy and they haven't picked up a single one! I want them to know but I have trouble just coming out and saying the word "gay", it's like the word gets caught in my throat on the way out! The only thing is that I don;t really ACT gay, I just like guys and only guys. Soo... without saying "I'm gay", how can I have my parents know about me!? There's gotta be more than one way to come out...

DubbLYU · 01-17-2008, 07:02 PM

you have to tell them. it's possible that your parents may already know but are just in denial and are holding on to that strand of hope that you will bring home a nice girl. you won't know for sure unless you tell them.

ThomasShaped · 01-17-2008, 07:12 PM

Hahaha I'm in the exact same position. All my friends know but not my parents. I like musicals and stuff too but I never act gay at all. My friends actually said I was the straightest acting guy in the group haha. I have a feeling that my parents do already know though with me being rather open about it with my friends (and the amount of times I've had my 'friend' Stuart over >_>). I can't bring myself to just tell them though..

killingloneliness · 01-17-2008, 07:21 PM

haha. my mom actually confronted me last year and asked if i was gay. i told her no cause i wasnt(and still am not) ready for her to know im bi(b60/g40).

but i luv musicals too, esp. "Wicked"! im infatuated with the book, musical and everything else!

my closest friends know im bi, but none of my family does. i wish i could tell them though cause its eating me alive!!!

Gsquared · 01-17-2008, 07:52 PM

maybe you could just say different words like, i like guys, not girls or something like that. or get a boyfriend or "boyfrined" and introduce him as your boyfrined... but what ever happens! good luck with it! and don't worry, i'm in the same boat.

DubbLYU · 01-17-2008, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Gsquared

maybe you could just say different words like, i like guys, not girls or something like that. or get a boyfriend or "boyfrined" and introduce him as your boyfrined... but what ever happens! good luck with it! and don't worry, i'm in the same boat.

yeah, usually when i come out to people i never use the word "gay." i always say something along the lines of "i don't get down with girls" or "i like dudes." thats always easier for me.

killingloneliness · 01-17-2008, 08:42 PM

i mostly dont wanna tell her cause i already cant have girls in my room and id die if i couldnt have guys in my room either.

even though i dont have many ppl in my room... but then she'd question me whenever i wanted to hang out w/ a guy!

lv_ya133 · 01-17-2008, 09:36 PM

shock them. have your boy friend come to your home to study for a test, then let your parents find you two makeing out.

wizy123 · 01-17-2008, 11:30 PM

ouch that would be major drama... cannt you just see it now...
parents walk in "what the hells going on?"
"oh mom meet my boy friend. (put in name)"
mother jaw drop father look angry.........
you can guess rest of story...
it is better if you tell them dont let them find out the hard way... it will be bad if you do

The 78th · 01-18-2008, 06:44 AM

Your friends are all gay? How did that happen lol?

Well erm, if it was me I wouldn't go out of my way to tell them, I'd wait for them to ask/find out.

Thats how my parents did anyway lol

wizy123 · 01-21-2008, 05:39 PM

same here.... when they told me they knew without me telling them i paniced and began telling the most intricite lies ever.... its funny but i was in shock....

Jon90 · 01-21-2008, 08:31 PM

they just confronted me, it was pretty akward, my mom asking me if i was gay in the dentist office, it felt bad for the dentist.. she wasn't surprise, I was just the last hope for grandchildren, lol. but I promise them 2 so there pretty content. lol

CosmicOne · 01-31-2008, 08:16 PM

So do they ask you what you've been up to with your friends? Just be blunt! "Oh today mother we re-incacted a dashing rendition of Act II in Joseph and the technicolour dreamcoat and then John tossed me off..."

No? :\

MintMike · 02-01-2008, 12:55 PM

Aww call me irresponsible I am pretty much in the same position I have been out to my mates for about 3/4 months now and they have all been fine with it and recently my parents have been annoying me asking about a girl friend and I really don’t want to lie to them so decided I was going to tell them soon. Anyways I asked my mates for a bit advice and they all say just come out with it but unfortunately I cannot just say it the words will not come out of my mouth =/ I was thinking of many options like writing a letter or something like that, either way I don’t want them to find out the hard way i.e. from someone else. Mike =]

CeeJus · 02-01-2008, 04:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MintMike

Aww call me irresponsible I am pretty much in the same position I have been out to my mates for about 3/4 months now and they have all been fine with it and recently my parents have been annoying me asking about a girl friend and I really don’t want to lie to them so decided I was going to tell them soon. Anyways I asked my mates for a bit advice and they all say just come out with it but unfortunately I cannot just say it the words will not come out of my mouth =/ I was thinking of many options like writing a letter or something like that, either way I don’t want them to find out the hard way i.e. from someone else. Mike =]

Yeah. It's hard to actually say the words for the first time. I wrote a letter to my mom like 3 months after i was out to everyone else.

01-17-2008, 01:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
Call Me Irresponsible Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Warwick, RI, USA Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 49	...my parents are OBLIVIOUS. (A question) Okay, so I'm out to every single one of my friends and acquaintances. Every single one of my friends are gay and my parent's know that. I'm out to my brother. I love musicals and theater. I'm in my school chorus and jazz chorus. I have NEVER had a girlfriend. WHY DO MY PARENTS THINK I'M STRAIGHT?! I've been dropping hints like crazy and they haven't picked up a single one! I want them to know but I have trouble just coming out and saying the word "gay", it's like the word gets caught in my throat on the way out! The only thing is that I don;t really ACT gay, I just like guys and only guys. Soo... without saying "I'm gay", how can I have my parents know about me!? There's gotta be more than one way to come out... __________________ + + taken by michael ryder - <3 - 2.14.08 + + so listen, you're adorable. you're incredible. you're the greatest thing that's ever happenned to me. everything you do makes me smile. i love seeing you every day of my life, i love getting to be the man in your life. you know that nothing but the best is good enough for me, so that's what you are. the best.

01-17-2008, 07:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
DubbLYU Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 309	you have to tell them. it's possible that your parents may already know but are just in denial and are holding on to that strand of hope that you will bring home a nice girl. you won't know for sure unless you tell them. __________________

01-17-2008, 09:36 PM	#8 (permalink)
lv_ya133 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Hampden, Maine Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 20	shock them. have your boy friend come to your home to study for a test, then let your parents find you two makeing out. __________________ OJ Has done every thing exept a high speed chase

01-17-2008, 11:30 PM	#9 (permalink)
wizy123 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: happy town.... or i would be if i could find it in my mind...! Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 77	ouch that would be major drama... cannt you just see it now... parents walk in "what the hells going on?" "oh mom meet my boy friend. (put in name)" mother jaw drop father look angry......... you can guess rest of story... it is better if you tell them dont let them find out the hard way... it will be bad if you do __________________ looks around helplessly im lost in a sea of sadness, waiting for my prince to save me. waiting for... visit me cityz manz http://happytown-ca.myminicity.com

01-18-2008, 06:44 AM	#10 (permalink)
The 78th Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: UK, West Sussex, Goring Gender: Posts: 39	Your friends are all gay? How did that happen lol? Well erm, if it was me I wouldn't go out of my way to tell them, I'd wait for them to ask/find out. Thats how my parents did anyway lol __________________

01-17-2008, 07:12 PM	#3 (permalink)
ThomasShaped Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Glasgow, Scotland Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 7	Hahaha I'm in the exact same position. All my friends know but not my parents. I like musicals and stuff too but I never act gay at all. My friends actually said I was the straightest acting guy in the group haha. I have a feeling that my parents do already know though with me being rather open about it with my friends (and the amount of times I've had my 'friend' Stuart over >_>). I can't bring myself to just tell them though..

01-17-2008, 07:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
killingloneliness Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MA Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 128	haha. my mom actually confronted me last year and asked if i was gay. i told her no cause i wasnt(and still am not) ready for her to know im bi(b60/g40). but i luv musicals too, esp. "Wicked"! im infatuated with the book, musical and everything else! my closest friends know im bi, but none of my family does. i wish i could tell them though cause its eating me alive!!!

01-17-2008, 07:52 PM	#5 (permalink)
Gsquared Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Oregon Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	maybe you could just say different words like, i like guys, not girls or something like that. or get a boyfriend or "boyfrined" and introduce him as your boyfrined... but what ever happens! good luck with it! and don't worry, i'm in the same boat.

01-17-2008, 08:42 PM	#7 (permalink)
killingloneliness Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MA Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 128	i mostly dont wanna tell her cause i already cant have girls in my room and id die if i couldnt have guys in my room either. even though i dont have many ppl in my room... but then she'd question me whenever i wanted to hang out w/ a guy!

01-21-2008, 05:39 PM	#11 (permalink)
wizy123 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: happy town.... or i would be if i could find it in my mind...! Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 77	same here.... when they told me they knew without me telling them i paniced and began telling the most intricite lies ever.... its funny but i was in shock.... __________________ looks around helplessly im lost in a sea of sadness, waiting for my prince to save me. waiting for... visit me cityz manz http://happytown-ca.myminicity.com

01-21-2008, 08:31 PM	#12 (permalink)
Jon90 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: uhhhm. Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 25	they just confronted me, it was pretty akward, my mom asking me if i was gay in the dentist office, it felt bad for the dentist.. she wasn't surprise, I was just the last hope for grandchildren, lol. but I promise them 2 so there pretty content. lol

01-31-2008, 08:16 PM	#13 (permalink)
CosmicOne Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: London Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 1	So do they ask you what you've been up to with your friends? Just be blunt! "Oh today mother we re-incacted a dashing rendition of Act II in Joseph and the technicolour dreamcoat and then John tossed me off..." No? :\

02-01-2008, 12:55 PM	#14 (permalink)
MintMike Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Newcastle Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 33	Aww call me irresponsible I am pretty much in the same position I have been out to my mates for about 3/4 months now and they have all been fine with it and recently my parents have been annoying me asking about a girl friend and I really don’t want to lie to them so decided I was going to tell them soon. Anyways I asked my mates for a bit advice and they all say just come out with it but unfortunately I cannot just say it the words will not come out of my mouth =/ I was thinking of many options like writing a letter or something like that, either way I don’t want them to find out the hard way i.e. from someone else. Mike =]

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