My dad has homophobic issues what should i do.

Rogue_wolf338 · 01-31-2008, 11:17 PM

Hi my name is johnny and i just came out of the closet last summer. Ever since then my dad and intire family have treated me differently. so i was wondering if anyone had a suggestion.

StarGazinVirgo69 · 01-31-2008, 11:26 PM

it takes time for them to realize the situation at first they might be in shock or disappointed the improtant thing is to talk to them and show them this is who you are and as them if they have questions trust me my praents are still kinda on edge but it gets less over time and im going t ocollege in a few months lol

**reminiscence** · 02-01-2008, 11:47 AM

Do something to prove yourself like win a trophy, get published in the newspaper etc

x0xevilmonkeyx0x · 02-10-2008, 12:18 AM

Sit them down and talk to them, tell them you are the same person you always were, and you told them because you didn't want to have to hide who you are. And remember Love is Love.

**Bulvox** · 02-10-2008, 12:27 AM

Let them know that you don't want to be treated differently just because you are different.

Plastic · 02-10-2008, 05:58 AM

Sometimes it's because they don't fully understand what gay is. You might need to explain to them that people are born gay and it's not a decision.

This site might help: born different, norman the dog who moos

Angelknight18 · 02-11-2008, 10:31 PM

You should just tell him in the most sensitive way that you can, but even if he doesn't like it, he will still love you.

Plastic · 02-12-2008, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Angelknight18

You should just tell him in the most sensitive way that you can, but even if he doesn't like it, he will still love you.

Welcome to the forum, if you read the first post properly, you will see that he isn't asking for coming out advice.

foamy_x · 02-16-2008, 09:55 AM

There's not all that much you can do other than wait for them to accept it.
They might take some time to get used to the idea.
I hope it works out better soon though.

I currently have no intention of telling my dad because he has an issue with the world it seems.
I dunno what the rest of my family will think but I only live with mum and sister; sister isn't bothered and mum is seemingly ok with it.
So coming out to my family of pretty much 2 people was relatively easy.

All the best.

ideasman · 02-18-2008, 11:59 PM

I was raised with parents who were apparently very narrow minded about the situation. So when i came out, shit hit the fan... i moved to a different country (and now live in New York) and my father doesn't have a say in who i sleep with. That was the only solution for me..

JakeyBoi · 02-19-2008, 12:21 AM

Lets see i came out to my parents my dad pretty much hates me cuz of the fact im gay... Mainly cuz the way he was raised.. But he cant change who is child is. He will still love me no matter what im his kid. I mean they might treat you different but hey thats how life goes. My dad still dosnt talk to me even after a year. But i know he still cares about me. I mean come on ever since your diffferent dosnt change who you really are. His kid. And everyone else like family is the same. Friends come and go. Family is always there their blood.

01-31-2008, 11:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
Rogue_wolf338 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Fort Wayne Indiana Gender: Posts: 19	My dad has homophobic issues what should i do. Hi my name is johnny and i just came out of the closet last summer. Ever since then my dad and intire family have treated me differently. so i was wondering if anyone had a suggestion.

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StarGazinVirgo69 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cranston RI Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 19	it takes time for them to realize the situation at first they might be in shock or disappointed the improtant thing is to talk to them and show them this is who you are and as them if they have questions trust me my praents are still kinda on edge but it gets less over time and im going t ocollege in a few months lol __________________ KyRY<3

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reminiscence Moderator Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Ireland Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 473	Do something to prove yourself like win a trophy, get published in the newspaper etc __________________ Spread the I'm imaginary, that makes you crazy. You think, therefore I am. Baile Atha Cliath!

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x0xevilmonkeyx0x Official GTF Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Massachusetts Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 27	Sit them down and talk to them, tell them you are the same person you always were, and you told them because you didn't want to have to hide who you are. And remember Love is Love. __________________ He died of a broken heart, and a razor blade. Roberto♫

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Plastic Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: SE England Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 781	Sometimes it's because they don't fully understand what gay is. You might need to explain to them that people are born gay and it's not a decision. This site might help: born different, norman the dog who moos __________________

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Angelknight18 Official GTF Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Spring Grove Gender: Posts: 68	You should just tell him in the most sensitive way that you can, but even if he doesn't like it, he will still love you.

02-16-2008, 09:55 AM	#9 (permalink)
foamy_x Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Gidea Park Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 35	There's not all that much you can do other than wait for them to accept it. They might take some time to get used to the idea. I hope it works out better soon though. I currently have no intention of telling my dad because he has an issue with the world it seems. I dunno what the rest of my family will think but I only live with mum and sister; sister isn't bothered and mum is seemingly ok with it. So coming out to my family of pretty much 2 people was relatively easy. All the best. __________________ Foamy_x

02-18-2008, 11:59 PM	#10 (permalink)
ideasman Official GTF Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Manhatten Gender: Posts: 13	I was raised with parents who were apparently very narrow minded about the situation. So when i came out, shit hit the fan... i moved to a different country (and now live in New York) and my father doesn't have a say in who i sleep with. That was the only solution for me..

02-19-2008, 12:21 AM	#11 (permalink)
JakeyBoi Official GTF Member Harpoon Lagoon Champion! Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Jersey Baby Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 189	Lets see i came out to my parents my dad pretty much hates me cuz of the fact im gay... Mainly cuz the way he was raised.. But he cant change who is child is. He will still love me no matter what im his kid. I mean they might treat you different but hey thats how life goes. My dad still dosnt talk to me even after a year. But i know he still cares about me. I mean come on ever since your diffferent dosnt change who you really are. His kid. And everyone else like family is the same. Friends come and go. Family is always there their blood.

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