Advice on gay crush's/flirting - Page 4

Jamd · 07-19-2008, 03:18 AM

Don't mention it at all, you'll seem needy.

guy0680 · 07-19-2008, 05:23 PM

I didn't say anything about the text message today when I saw him, we only saw each other briefly as I was leaving when he was coming in....when this happens I will usually stay behind for a bit and talk to him but I smiled and said hi when I saw him, he did the same, but I just left afterwards

guy0680 · 07-19-2008, 08:02 PM

I totally 100% agree that I should wait a few days before asking him again...which I will do...but its KILLING me, I want to hang out with him so much

guy0680 · 07-20-2008, 01:38 PM

Worked with him today, we talked alot, didn't mention my text from the other night.

He was talking about beer and I said that we still had to party together sometime, and he said absolutely but he hasn't drank at all lately, but next time there is a party he'd let me know. I hope he does, it would make my summer

One thing that I noticed was that although he visits me during the day (he is allowed to wander, I'm stuck to one spot), his visits become more frequent when I am working with this WICKED nice woman we work with that he likes (not like THAT, and shes like in her 40's). I'm a little jealous I'm not going to lie LOL.

Today I decided to start being a little more "playful" with him, having physical flirting instead of just vocal (like knudging him and smiling when he walks by etc.) He high fives me alot and TRIES to do cool handshakes with me (For some reason I am incapable of doing any sort of special handshake ever)...I'm the only one he does that stuff with, does that mean anything?

guy0680 · 07-21-2008, 01:52 PM

So I have finally decided on how I could ask him out...

He has summer classes in my town (he lives a town over) M-F? early in the morning. Like 8-10? or something like that. So next time I see him I'll ask him what he does/is doing after his class...and ask if he would want to get some breakfast/lunch after.

What do you guys think about that??

guy0680 · 07-22-2008, 11:07 PM

So today pretty much stomped the idea of us becoming "involved" but we definitely became closer friends.

I was called into work today to do something...even though there wasn't anything for me to do...so I got paid to do nothing...which gave me alot of time with him. We got to talk alot. He never would talk about "gay" things but today he opened up on the subject.

Turns out we both have the same taste in music, (His eyes lit up when I knew what "Radar" by Britney Spears was haha...he insisted that I go sit with him in his car to listen to it right then in there...we both love "Blackout" the album by Britney haha...he went through his iPod and we agreed on almost every song he had on there lol), who else we thought was gay at our work, guys we thought that were hot at our work, he told me about his ex, and other parts of his life. He asked me several times if I thought he was attractive, which I told him that I thought he was, though he didn't seem to believe me.

Oh yeah... than he told me about his boyfriend, who he started seeing last week. Surprising myself, I didn't take it that bad. I was expecting to not take that well if it came up, but I was fine with it. I'm more than happy to just be his friend, tonight it felt good to be open with someone like I was with him. But to make things a little more awkward for me....his boyfriend (whose last name he didnt know and spelt his first name wrong...I see it lasting a while *rolling my eyes* haha)...turns out I know his brother...who also happens to be gay

I am leaving our work at the end of August because of College....something that he told me he is very upset about. I'm going to miss him too...

As we were leaving work he started to tell me about how he's never been able to have a gay friend before...because they all end up liking him. I told him that I would "try to not fall in love with him" in a joking way.

I still find this weird though, there are 4 people that he has told at our work that hes gay, but he won't tell any of us that the other 4 know lol....like it will be me, him and one of the girls that know...and she'll slip up and he'll cover it up...why cover up the slip...he knows I already know!! lol

Jamd · 07-23-2008, 09:41 AM

Yhay! okay, the friend bit sucks, but yay!

guy0680 · 07-24-2008, 10:23 PM

Although I am still extremely sexually attracted to him...I can't tell you guys how good it is to finally have someone that I can be completely open about everything with and talk about things that I had to keep to myself before now

guy0680 · 07-25-2008, 12:14 AM

I asked him today that if I never came out to him if he would have ever came out to me...he said he wouldn't have, so I'm glad I finally got the courage to tell him myself

Bandana · 07-27-2008, 02:32 AM

woooow, awesome story man.
ive read it all. : P
just great !
i wish i was you right now : P
im not open to anyone. so it would be nice to talk to someone in person : P and not through fourms with people i dont even know : P but, give good advice : P
anyway. i also LOOOOVE blackout ! and radar was my fav song and is still one of the good ones. but right now i really like ohh ohh baby, get naked, and freakshow : P they are a good listen.
none of my friends listen to the music i do.. and they dont really know the extent that i listen to all this "girly" music.. but i live it all ; P
i would never let any of my friends see the music on my mp3 : P

07-19-2008, 03:18 AM	#46 (permalink)
Jamd Official GTF Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: South Africa Gender: Posts: 145	Don't mention it at all, you'll seem needy. __________________ a man that smiles when something goes wrong has thought of someone to blame it on

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Jamd Official GTF Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: South Africa Gender: Posts: 145	Yhay! okay, the friend bit sucks, but yay! __________________ a man that smiles when something goes wrong has thought of someone to blame it on

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07-19-2008, 05:23 PM	#47 (permalink)
guy0680 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Posts: 62	I didn't say anything about the text message today when I saw him, we only saw each other briefly as I was leaving when he was coming in....when this happens I will usually stay behind for a bit and talk to him but I smiled and said hi when I saw him, he did the same, but I just left afterwards

07-19-2008, 08:02 PM	#48 (permalink)
guy0680 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Posts: 62	I totally 100% agree that I should wait a few days before asking him again...which I will do...but its KILLING me, I want to hang out with him so much

07-20-2008, 01:38 PM	#49 (permalink)
guy0680 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Posts: 62	Worked with him today, we talked alot, didn't mention my text from the other night. He was talking about beer and I said that we still had to party together sometime, and he said absolutely but he hasn't drank at all lately, but next time there is a party he'd let me know. I hope he does, it would make my summer One thing that I noticed was that although he visits me during the day (he is allowed to wander, I'm stuck to one spot), his visits become more frequent when I am working with this WICKED nice woman we work with that he likes (not like THAT, and shes like in her 40's). I'm a little jealous I'm not going to lie LOL. Today I decided to start being a little more "playful" with him, having physical flirting instead of just vocal (like knudging him and smiling when he walks by etc.) He high fives me alot and TRIES to do cool handshakes with me (For some reason I am incapable of doing any sort of special handshake ever)...I'm the only one he does that stuff with, does that mean anything?

07-21-2008, 01:52 PM	#50 (permalink)
guy0680 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Posts: 62	So I have finally decided on how I could ask him out... He has summer classes in my town (he lives a town over) M-F? early in the morning. Like 8-10? or something like that. So next time I see him I'll ask him what he does/is doing after his class...and ask if he would want to get some breakfast/lunch after. What do you guys think about that??

07-22-2008, 11:07 PM	#51 (permalink)
guy0680 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Posts: 62	So today pretty much stomped the idea of us becoming "involved" but we definitely became closer friends. I was called into work today to do something...even though there wasn't anything for me to do...so I got paid to do nothing...which gave me alot of time with him. We got to talk alot. He never would talk about "gay" things but today he opened up on the subject. Turns out we both have the same taste in music, (His eyes lit up when I knew what "Radar" by Britney Spears was haha...he insisted that I go sit with him in his car to listen to it right then in there...we both love "Blackout" the album by Britney haha...he went through his iPod and we agreed on almost every song he had on there lol), who else we thought was gay at our work, guys we thought that were hot at our work, he told me about his ex, and other parts of his life. He asked me several times if I thought he was attractive, which I told him that I thought he was, though he didn't seem to believe me. Oh yeah... than he told me about his boyfriend, who he started seeing last week. Surprising myself, I didn't take it that bad. I was expecting to not take that well if it came up, but I was fine with it. I'm more than happy to just be his friend, tonight it felt good to be open with someone like I was with him. But to make things a little more awkward for me....his boyfriend (whose last name he didnt know and spelt his first name wrong...I see it lasting a while rolling my eyes haha)...turns out I know his brother...who also happens to be gay I am leaving our work at the end of August because of College....something that he told me he is very upset about. I'm going to miss him too... As we were leaving work he started to tell me about how he's never been able to have a gay friend before...because they all end up liking him. I told him that I would "try to not fall in love with him" in a joking way. I still find this weird though, there are 4 people that he has told at our work that hes gay, but he won't tell any of us that the other 4 know lol....like it will be me, him and one of the girls that know...and she'll slip up and he'll cover it up...why cover up the slip...he knows I already know!! lol

07-24-2008, 10:23 PM	#53 (permalink)
guy0680 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Posts: 62	Although I am still extremely sexually attracted to him...I can't tell you guys how good it is to finally have someone that I can be completely open about everything with and talk about things that I had to keep to myself before now

07-25-2008, 12:14 AM	#54 (permalink)
guy0680 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Posts: 62	I asked him today that if I never came out to him if he would have ever came out to me...he said he wouldn't have, so I'm glad I finally got the courage to tell him myself

07-27-2008, 02:32 AM	#55 (permalink)
Bandana Official GTF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Southern Ontario, Canada Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 69	woooow, awesome story man. ive read it all. : P just great ! i wish i was you right now : P im not open to anyone. so it would be nice to talk to someone in person : P and not through fourms with people i dont even know : P but, give good advice : P anyway. i also LOOOOVE blackout ! and radar was my fav song and is still one of the good ones. but right now i really like ohh ohh baby, get naked, and freakshow : P they are a good listen. none of my friends listen to the music i do.. and they dont really know the extent that i listen to all this "girly" music.. but i live it all ; P i would never let any of my friends see the music on my mp3 : P