forcefield081

rileycoyote

well my two bits of advice are:

1. its very normal for a 14 year old to be confused about whether you are gay or straight. you havent got much experience with either one so no wonder you're confused. for now just consider yourself to be bi, and open and interested in both sexes.
2. you need to have more confidence, if you asked any guy on here to give a list what they're looking for in a bf, 80% would not say a hot body in their top 3 reasons. Personality, and sense of humor and confidence are a lot more important. I would recommend playing some sport, tennis would be a good sport to take up, because it will help you get fit & make your body look good , plus you'll gain confidence from winning some matches.

forcefield081

Thanks For The Advice, it really helped. Because I never consider myself as being "someone" admired. Thx Again ^.^

forcefield081

But I'm not really confident about my face too, so i mean... I don't really think I have the things that a guy would want, what should I do to get someone? I'm really confused.

Silent

1. I was confused about my sexual orientation at your age too. It wasn't until around 8-10 months ago I accepted it (and I'm almost 16.) You have plenty of time to figure it out. Which do you like? Guys? Girls? Both? Its really hard to know, right? What was holding me back was what OTHER people wanted. I was afraid other people wouldn't accept me as gay, and thought I could hide it. wrong. Maybe you should think about, what do you want? And not let anyone or anything influence you. But, like I said, you have plenty of time to figure it out. I would say, that if you are starting to question, and asking for help figuring it out, then you will soon.
2. Confidence in yourself is hard to gain. You don't need a hot body to have self-confidence. If you want a hot body, I would assume the only solutions are to work out and get some sun. Working out will help you get some muscle and what people consider 'hot.' You might also want to consider a sport. Firstly, physical activity helps with depression, you meet new people, helps your body become physically fit, which is considered 'hot' I suppose. Like I said. Having a hot body is not required for self-confidence.
3. You don't need to make out with someone. By "I don't know what steps I should take," do you mean how to make out? And, its very hard to determine whether or not someone is gay. I mean, you can look for clues, but its extremely hard unless someone makes it pretty obvious. Look for clues that you do, that you think would distinguish you gay (or questioning...) from straight, that nobody notices. Start looking for those clues in others. Get to know the people.
4. How can you be you and not think others are better than you? I may sound like a hypocrite, but you should stop giving a damn about what others think of you. Its hard to do. But, really, stop caring what others think. If someone doesn't like you, good for them. Who cares? If you act yourself there will be plenty of people who will admire that and like you. You'll meet lots of people who like you for the way you are, and you won't feel that horrible feeling of keeping everything hidden inside.


hmmmmmm, not sure how good my advice is (almost didn't submit it), but hopefully it can help.

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iop92

Oh yeah, go to the gym. It really does boost your confidence and the minute you start practicing (at least for me), you forget all your daily troubles.

forcefield081

No, It did help, a lot. Thanks for the advice. I now understand about being gay and to treasure it always. Once again, Thank you for posting advices, It really really helped me to know who I really am.

Chicken_Nugg

ok u are EXACTLY like me.. i always thought ppl in my school had the "perfect" body and no one would even look at me cuz i didn't have the "look." but after being on this website and finding myself what i can say to you is be confident.. it is not easy i kno that for a fact becuz im still not confident in myself.. but i wouldn't say getting the hot body is the right thing to do.. i say that becuz than ur changing urself just to make someone else happy.. its YOU who needs to be happy.. if u think a hot body will make u happy by all means go ahead and work out.. get fit.. but it's not the most important thing in a guy.. most ppl in my opinion who likes ppl for hot bodies.. are self centered punks.. that's just my opinion.. but yea its based on personality and charisma in my books.. how well u can keep a convo going and just how u can act you know?.. but anyways i was confused about my sexual orientation at your age as well.. that's perfectly normal.. that right there will take time.. it wont be easy that much i can say.. but anyways yea i kno what ur going through cuz im going through it and i feel the exact same way.. just be strong and keep ur head held high.. [now if only i can take my own advise lol]

Aw.J

Okay Im ur age and I was in that position I say this,find a sexi quality about yourself, like me, I'm a charmer and I am very enticing, and don't control it, I found out I was pansexual by rolling with the punches

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dragon072891

1), as riley and silent said, it is perfectly normal for a boy your age to be confused,, i was still in my denial stage at 14,, trust me,, you will pull through it,, and as far as "knowing", as soon as you start getting some confrontations on the sexual level, with either a girl or a guy, you will know what you like, and don't, and if the sparks don't fly with a girl, but they do with a guy, then there is your answer,, and vise versa. but you cant look at the "stereotypical" homosexuals behavior as how you determin if you are gay or not, most gay males act NOTHING like our stereotype portrays us
2)you are 14, young, and still getting taller, it happens to pretty much every guy, unless you spend 20 hours a week in the gym from age 2, your gonna have "pudge" because you haven't grown into your body yet, and most guys grow wider before taller, and of course you can have the body you want, swimming is a GREAT exercise to work out pretty much every muscle, because you have free movement.
3)making out is pretty simple,, in a sense, but your supposed to not know how to do it, and mess it up, that makes it more fun anyways,, and you will get much better as you go along, but you cant expect to know what your doing when you new,, and that is understandable to pretty much every person out there,, because we have all been there..
4)there isn't a single person out there that is 100% happy with there body, and appearance,, there is something everyone wants to change about themselves,, and id say (if its possible) to change it naturally more to like what you want, ie, if your not happy about not having a six pack, work out, if you don't like hair, shave,, do anything you can (that doesn't involve surgery or drugs) to make yourself happy with what you have,, of course, there are some things you cant possibly change, like the shape of your feet, but there is alot you can do to become happier what what you were given,, and we don't think your stupid, your confused, and we all know how that is,,,

i hope this helped you, sorry kinda long, but im in a writing mood

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forcefield081

Thanks for the advices everyone! I do feel better >.<