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Matt Rools You · 11-25-2007, 10:35 PM

I'm 6'4'' and 298lbs. I'm a big guy, and I am proud of my homosexuality. I feel sometimes that gay guys I know in person often put me down. Maybe not intentionally, but they do. Some I know they are off putting to me on purpose.

Is the gay society at-large fatphobic? I know a lot of straight men are homophobic because they are afraid of us (gay men) being attracted to them. Is it the same thing in the gay culture, twinky guys are afraid of me being attracted to them... so they shun me, so to speak?

04davjac · 11-26-2007, 05:55 PM

hey,
dont put yourself down!
Just ignore the people that discriminate against you.
I used to be quite large and it can be horrible when people call you fat.
just think about it, if you have a crush on someone who then is nasty to you, they arent really a very nice person are they?
so they arent worth getting angry or upset over.
and for your question:
I dont think the whole gay community is fatphobic. Just a select few idiots.
and those idiots arent worth spending time worrying over.

Matt Rools You · 11-27-2007, 11:41 PM

Thanks ^_^ I really haven't let them bring me down in the long run, I honestly think I'm stronger because of it.

baralaius · 11-28-2007, 01:18 PM

i only know one guy and he definately is but i dont think thats the same for everyone

ihax · 12-05-2007, 05:32 PM

I'm a large guy as well; I haven't really shared my photo online for that reason...

Hmm... I don't know what to say

kryptkeeper51 · 12-05-2007, 06:11 PM

Just ignore them, you'll find someone. but to tell you the truth many people may accept you but not a lot of them will probably be attracted to you. not doing this to be mean but, well you know.

Matt Rools You · 12-05-2007, 06:49 PM

I'm not worried about attraction... There are plenty of people out there for me [See Wikipedia - Bear Community and "I am Bear, Hear me Roar!" - Salon.com] But I am concerned over not being accepted... or even appreciated by the gay population at-large.

Dr. Oldsmobile · 12-19-2007, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Matt Rools You

I'm not worried about attraction... There are plenty of people out there for me [See Wikipedia - Bear Community and "I am Bear, Hear me Roar!" - Salon.com] But I am concerned over not being accepted... or even appreciated by the gay population at-large.

Whether you are gay or straight body image can be a very frustrating thing. The fact remains that it is much better to be friends and get into relationships with people who like you for who you are as opposed to how you look. Unfortunately, in all strata of society there is a stigma attached to being overweight which is not right. In the end of the day folks with physical limitations just have to work that much harder to make people see through the physical aspects that they see in order to see the person underneath. In the end of the day once people get to know you and see you for who you are, then it is far better to be around those folks than be around vain people who only want you for your body. The most important thing is that you have to love yourself, and then people will like you. No matter how you look always remember that you are as good as everyone else out there.

Not to digress from the topic at hand, but some people are just naturally big. You might be one of those people, and there is not much you can do about it. However, if you are overweight in relation to your height and body size, then you might want to talk with your physician to discuss weight control options. Beyond physical looks you need to maintain your health, and the last thing you need is to suffer adverse physical problems as a result of your weight.

Basically, no matter how you look you are just like anyone else in a good way.

FikeMeh · 12-20-2007, 12:06 AM

i guess it is since gay men weigh negative pounds

j/k no honestly just rock what you got

Chicken_Nugg · 02-06-2008, 02:38 PM

after readin everyone's replies it's actually kinda helped me.

i say this becuz im kinda big... 5'10, 230lbs (note im on a diet i weighed 245lbs at the beginnin of January)... ppl always makin funny of me... i have low self-esteem, very low... and wen 1 person makes a remark about me my whole day goes down the drain u know? im a pretty sensitive guy and i try not to be that sensitive you kno? but if any1 can help me out more here's my myspace...

MySpace.com - smilez!!! [sean] (NEW PICTURES) - 17 - Male - TACOMA, Washington - www.myspace.com/xxstotheetotheatothenxx

JakeyBoi · 02-06-2008, 03:58 PM

Looks dont really bother me i mean im dating someone 6'4 and he is like 230 lbs it dont bother me. Like i know im not big but he is i dont care. I guess it also depends on your height. Sure nobody likes it but hey if ppl still say your hot then go wit it.

11-25-2007, 10:35 PM	#1 (permalink)
Matt Rools You Official GTF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 78	Chub I'm 6'4'' and 298lbs. I'm a big guy, and I am proud of my homosexuality. I feel sometimes that gay guys I know in person often put me down. Maybe not intentionally, but they do. Some I know they are off putting to me on purpose. Is the gay society at-large fatphobic? I know a lot of straight men are homophobic because they are afraid of us (gay men) being attracted to them. Is it the same thing in the gay culture, twinky guys are afraid of me being attracted to them... so they shun me, so to speak? Last edited by Matt Rools You; 11-25-2007 at 10:36 PM. Reason: Grammar

12-05-2007, 06:11 PM	#6 (permalink)
kryptkeeper51 Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Massachusetts Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 59	Just ignore them, you'll find someone. but to tell you the truth many people may accept you but not a lot of them will probably be attracted to you. not doing this to be mean but, well you know. __________________ " Life is a Beautiful Disease"

12-05-2007, 06:49 PM	#7 (permalink)
Matt Rools You Official GTF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 78	I'm not worried about attraction... There are plenty of people out there for me [See Wikipedia - Bear Community and "I am Bear, Hear me Roar!" - Salon.com] But I am concerned over not being accepted... or even appreciated by the gay population at-large. Last edited by Matt Rools You; 12-05-2007 at 06:57 PM.

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11-26-2007, 05:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
04davjac Official GTF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Birmingham UK Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 132	hey, dont put yourself down! Just ignore the people that discriminate against you. I used to be quite large and it can be horrible when people call you fat. just think about it, if you have a crush on someone who then is nasty to you, they arent really a very nice person are they? so they arent worth getting angry or upset over. and for your question: I dont think the whole gay community is fatphobic. Just a select few idiots. and those idiots arent worth spending time worrying over.

11-27-2007, 11:41 PM	#3 (permalink)
Matt Rools You Official GTF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 78	Thanks ^_^ I really haven't let them bring me down in the long run, I honestly think I'm stronger because of it.

11-28-2007, 01:18 PM	#4 (permalink)
baralaius Official GTF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Southampton-Hampshire-UK Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 54	i only know one guy and he definately is but i dont think thats the same for everyone

12-05-2007, 05:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
ihax Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 40	I'm a large guy as well; I haven't really shared my photo online for that reason... Hmm... I don't know what to say

12-20-2007, 12:06 AM	#9 (permalink)
FikeMeh Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 18	i guess it is since gay men weigh negative pounds j/k no honestly just rock what you got

02-06-2008, 02:38 PM	#10 (permalink)
Chicken_Nugg Official GTF Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Tacoma, Washington Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 187	after readin everyone's replies it's actually kinda helped me. i say this becuz im kinda big... 5'10, 230lbs (note im on a diet i weighed 245lbs at the beginnin of January)... ppl always makin funny of me... i have low self-esteem, very low... and wen 1 person makes a remark about me my whole day goes down the drain u know? im a pretty sensitive guy and i try not to be that sensitive you kno? but if any1 can help me out more here's my myspace... MySpace.com - smilez!!! [sean] (NEW PICTURES) - 17 - Male - TACOMA, Washington - www.myspace.com/xxstotheetotheatothenxx

02-06-2008, 03:58 PM	#11 (permalink)
JakeyBoi Official GTF Member Harpoon Lagoon Champion! Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Jersey Baby Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 181	Looks dont really bother me i mean im dating someone 6'4 and he is like 230 lbs it dont bother me. Like i know im not big but he is i dont care. I guess it also depends on your height. Sure nobody likes it but hey if ppl still say your hot then go wit it.