Peaceandluv4all

What do you do when you feel sad and suicidal...
I am gay and teen but I am also very lonley and sad..
In my school I am kinda openly gay and whenever I ask the openly gay guys in my school out they just dismiss me and call me ugly and that I am a waste of theres and everyone elses time and that I will never love ugly me. I just want to know how to impress them and make them think I am hot instead of ugly...I just wish I had a boyfriend to hug and love instead of having all of the gay guys in my school shuning me
Sorry gys I am just real depressed now I feel like kiling myslef

lotsoq

PEACE AND LOVE 4 ALL!
Killing yourself is not an option. I live in a small town..being gay is shunned so i have to hide myself or be chopped up in the local meat deli and sold as beef. So what you do is find a group of friends...i am the center of a group of girls. The girls are my life. Some people think im gay but since i am friends with all the girls...none of the freaky hicks dare touch me! I guess what i'm telling you is to find a firend or friends and liberate yourself. I guess you or I or many other people may not be the most fortunate but- I don't really see being gay as a bad thing-heck..lately i've been thinking maybe we are more "evolved" (i know thats a bad word to use considering even i don't believe in evolution)--maybe god wants us to be the ones not focusing on being wage earner, patriarch/matriarch, hunter,.... but maybe being the ones to create peace in our world since we aren't as important in the "family/reproduction" area. *'m sorry if you don't believe in god or i guess my god...no offense meant.

Impeach My Bush

First of all: Don't kill yourself. Things can and will get better.

Second, you're not ugly. The people you ask out are shallow and you're better than them. You should wait for a nice guy to come along who respects you and treats you properly. It's hard right now, since (I assume) you're still in school. Things get easier as you get older and gain independence.

Adrastus

Whtvr1990 has a point, in a way, however i don't agree with the "evolved" part, we are no better then straight people, there are plenty of really nice straight guys, and there are just as many gays that care about money and hunting as there are straight, only reason i think you think that whtvr1990 may be because of personal experiences, because we seem to remember the horrible things better then the nicer things. No offense taken on that, but you will find just as many "peaceful" gay guys as straight guys, and you will find just as many rude/ignorant gay guys, as you will straight guys, it is evident in peaceandlove4all's scenario.

Now ahah sorry, i had to get that out there, peace, really, high school is a difficult time, but i don't really know enough to help you out here, it depends on how you confront these guys, like.. its better to get to know them, show them how great your personality is, get them to like you for who you are, sex and having a boyfriend isn't everything. Just try to look at life positively, what are the good things.. i mean c'mon you are out.. I'm not near that stage. Props to you!

Here is a neat quote to live by : “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” -Dr.Seuss
In other words, there is someone meant for you, you just haven't found him yet, He will come along someday, and you will know.. but you have to be around to experience that.And.. maybe that guy needs you just as much, and if you aren't around.. you're kind leaving him the crappy end of the stick eh?

Cheers man, it'll all work out, get comfortable with yourself ! There is a silver lining everywhere !

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Never argue with idiots, in the end they will just beat you with their experience.

Bulvox

Killing yourself is NEVER the answer. NEVER. It will not solve anything. It will hurt everyone that loves you and cares about you. Your family and friends. Don't listen to whom ever is calling you ugly or saying your not worth their time. You will find your match somewhere sometime. You just have to stay strong until that moment comes around!

Dr. Oldsmobile

At the risk of sounding repetitious, suicide is definitely not the way to go, and you should do your best to put such thoughts out of your mind (which is easier said than done).

Regarding your relationship with your gay counterparts, there is no doubt that their actions have hurt you very badly to the point of questioning your existence. The fact remains is who are these folks to judge you and your attractiveness and/or merits? Gay or straight some people are just plain assholes, and you should not let narrow-minded fools make you feel bad. The fact remains you cannot beat idiots because they have so much more experience when it comes to stupidity.

If this would help any, one option that you can pursue is to branch out and make friends outside of the gay community. Gay or straight we are all people, and there is no reason why you should limit yourself to gay people. Not all friendships have to be romantic, and even if there are kids in your neighbourhood with whom you can hang around that is the first step to building up your self-esteem. Don't let homosexuality define you because you are a person first, and your sexual orientation is merely incidental.

The option that I really should have mentioned first was to be tight with your family. While the unfortunate truth is that quite a number of homosexual kids can be shunned by their family, the fact remains that there surely must be someone in your household who is level-headed and who will love you unconditionally. Boyfriends come and go, but it is your family that is your constant. It takes time for families to come to grips with a member who is homosexual, but the fact remains that you are their flesh and blood. Hopefully, there is someone in your family who will be there for you.

Finally, assuming that you are either in high school or college you definitely should seek out a counseler if the family option doesn't work out for you. There is no doubt that you may need to seek counseling as a way to develop strategies to deal with your feelings. It is hard enough to be rejected in this heterosexual world; to be rejected by your homosexual counterparts is nothing short of shocking.

In closing, you have many options open to you other than suicide. The first step is to love yourself and to build up your self-esteem. Unfortunately, no one but you can accomplish that task, and you absolutely need to find positive attributes about yourself. Try to find a trusted relative or a responsible adult such as a teacher, professer, counseler, school administrator, etc. who can help you. There are limits to what we can do over the internet, and the best people who can help you are those on the ground near you. I would urge you to seek assistance, and do not let a small cabal of fools ruin what otherwise should be a great time in your life.