johngotti123

hey there 23/m/gay here. I met this boy at work named chad 2 years ago (hes 21). The summer of 06, we started fooling around. Then we stopped because he told me he wasnt gay, but we stayed best friends.
Then summer of 07, we really started getting serious. you know sex, making out, sleeping in the same bed (god that was nice) he was my first love thats for sure.
It was pretty heavy, all my gay friends were like whoa looks like you got a bf. My str8 friends (im only out to my mom, chad, and a select few) would make jokes about us been gay because we were SO close, like everybody could tell somthing was up with us.
but then last december he hooked up with an old girlfriend and BOOM no more sex no more nothing. dont get me wrong he still picked up girls at the bar but nothing serious he didnt want a girlfriend. Now hes with her 24/7 like we used to be. He also sorta rubbed it in my face like "yeh now SHE gets to sleep next to me"
He is blunt like that, kind of rough around the edges. but he was really kind and supportive for me, always there if i had a bad day or was depressed he GAVE a shit.
so the question is should i just drop him completly? were still sorta buddies but not nearly as close, im just wondering if its normel for him to like change so fast its like im not importent anymore.... it sucks.
i know the answer is prob yeh drop the guy, but i still love him and we practicly lived with eachother for 6 months. lol i think i got dumped for a woman, and i cant do a damn thing about it

Adrastus

uh . . . . what the hell. He had sex with you, but dropped you for a girlfriend? And rubbed it in your face. What the fuck? Dude I don't know how you didn't ruin his credibility out of spite, and drop him on the floor. I'd abso-fucking-lutely kill him ahaha. So he sleeps with you, has sex with you, makes out with you . . . . but he won't say he's gay. . . and goes off with girls.

People confuse me ! This is what absolutely kills me, these bastards ahaha

Personally I'd say drop him altogether and find another guy. Confront him, "be friends, or piss the hell off".. or just drop him like a hot potato. : )

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johngotti123

thanks for replying man, but you know its part of been gay and growing up. i just took it hard cause he was my first love and it was a fucking rush going through all of this thats for sure. i woudnt want to go through it again. whats gonna happen is we will still be buddies. but he will just slowley fade away like in one of those comming of age movies lol. ill be ok, i was really upset for a while but hey you gotta move on with life. next guy i get serious with ill make sure he isnt my best friend and hes gay, not confused like chad. i still miss having that with him i really loved him like whoa. anyways thanks.