Age Difference

**Adrastus** · 12-09-2007, 02:57 PM

Man i've been told by so many people that "age is just a number" - Words from the wise. But is it really?! like can you tell me there is absolutely no problem with a 15 year old dating a 23 year old? even 22! Its just .. not suppose to be. A 15 year old just can't have the mature capabilities of a 22 year old. They are in two different worlds, the 22-23 year old is working , for a living, or 3-4 th year university! I mean i can see as you are getting older 18 - 22 seems good, 19 - 25+ its quite alright. But when you are pushing 15 -17 years old, it just bothers me, and it should bother the parents of their child.
Just want to see what you guys think on the subject.

DubbLYU · 12-09-2007, 05:05 PM

i agree. i think that if you're still a teenager you have no business messing around with somebody over 20. that's ridiculous. you're not mature enough to deal with some of the things that a young adult deals with. i have a friend who's 16 years old and is dating a guy that is 24! i tried to talk to him about it, but he said that he could handle it. *rolls eyes* i hope all goes well.

Dan · 12-09-2007, 05:23 PM

I agree, I think that as you get older age differences can be greater... but at 15, 23 is really too old

t.A.T.u. · 12-09-2007, 11:29 PM

I agree to some degree, but you can't really help it when a 15-17 luvs somebody who's 22. Moreover, I don't see a problem with a 15 yo dating somebody like 16-21, but over that I tend to not agree with so much. Then, an 18 yo is fine, to me, dating someone 19-29, but then any older is odd

Driver · 12-11-2007, 05:47 PM

There was a show on yesterday, a 16 year old dating a 40+ year old. It may have been the most freakiest thing i have ever seen, especially when the mum went, shes like 15 years older then me.

I dont mind if they are maybe, 3/4 years apart, but anymore and conflictions could occur.

Dr. Oldsmobile · 12-20-2007, 12:00 AM

I disagree that age is just a number because so many things are determined by age not the least of it is maturity. The fact remains that an older person is going to be at an unfair advantage over a young person. In the example cited in the first post, a college student is definitely going to be light years ahead of a high school student in terms of maturity and experience which works to the detriment of the high school student. Also, some older folks may be just look at the young person as fresh meat which can adversely affect the younger person when he/she goes for future relationships.

My basic point is that it is so much better and safer that folks stay within their own age groups so that they will not only be with people who share their life experiences but also will be on their same level maturity and experience wise.

**Bulvox** · 12-20-2007, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Dr. Oldsmobile

I disagree that age is just a number because so many things are determined by age not the least of it is maturity. The fact remains that an older person is going to be at an unfair advantage over a young person. In the example cited in the first post, a college student is definitely going to be light years ahead of a high school student in terms of maturity and experience which works to the detriment of the high school student. Also, some older folks may be just look at the young person as fresh meat which can adversely affect the younger person when he/she goes for future relationships.

My basic point is that it is so much better and safer that folks stay within their own age groups so that they will not only be with people who share their life experiences but also will be on their same level maturity and experience wise.

Really good way to put it.

Lil Boi Is SexyX · 01-01-2008, 05:04 PM

Honestly, I think depends on the persons maturity level some teenagers are more mature for their age and they are able to handle the age difference. Same thing with adults. Now im not saying a 40 year old should be dating a 12 year old...Yeah im not good at explaining things but im sure you get what I mean.

DubbLYU · 01-01-2008, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Lil Boi Is SexyX

Honestly, I think depends on the persons maturity level some teenagers are more mature for their age and they are able to handle the age difference. Same thing with adults. Now im not saying a 40 year old should be dating a 12 year old...Yeah im not good at explaining things but im sure you get what I mean.

that is the same exact excuse that a lot of girls at my school make for dating dudes over 20. i don't think it's a good excuse. most teenagers have this mindset where they think they are more mature when they are not. just because you don't participate in risky behavior or your average teenage recklessness does not mean that you are mentally ready to participate in a relationship with somebody that has a lot more experience than you do. but, that's just my opinion.

Lil Boi Is SexyX · 01-02-2008, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DubbLYU

that is the same exact excuse that a lot of girls at my school make for dating dudes over 20. i don't think it's a good excuse. most teenagers have this mindset where they think they are more mature when they are not. just because you don't participate in risky behavior or your average teenage recklessness does not mean that you are mentally ready to participate in a relationship with somebody that has a lot more experience than you do. but, that's just my opinion.

I didn't mean in a sexual way I ment it as in some people have to grow up faster than others type of thing.

DubbLYU · 01-03-2008, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Lil Boi Is SexyX

I didn't mean in a sexual way I ment it as in some people have to grow up faster than others type of thing.

i know what you meant, i was speaking about the mental aspect of the relationship.

mikeisdastud · 01-05-2008, 08:16 AM

Well Idk... I think That Someone Who Is 15 Shouldn't date someone over 17 but thats just My Opinion...

My Bf Is 18 and I'm 16 But He Just Barley Turned 18
so I don't See It As A Big Deal 2 years Isn't Much Of an Age Gap...

But 15 to 23 Is ...

But My Mom Is 34 and Husband Is 49 Which Is A pretty Big Age Gap And She Tells Me All The Time You Can't Put A Number On Love...

And I'm Like Sure You Say That Now But If I was To Date Someone 12 Years Older than Me You Would Flip Out So It Just Depends On The Ages Being Compared.

Blank Space · 01-05-2008, 10:26 AM

It depends on the brain development of the younger person. As a younger teen, the brain is still developing and may not be capable of seeing the relationship in more than the one viewpoint. However, if both are adults and fully capable of decisions and understanding, then i really don't see much of a problem as long as they both truly love each other.

I'm 18... I willing to go as far as about 24-25 to someone I would date.

DubbLYU · 01-05-2008, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Blank Space

It depends on the brain development of the younger person. As a younger teen, the brain is still developing and may not be capable of seeing the relationship in more than the one viewpoint. However, if both are adults and fully capable of decisions and understanding, then i really don't see much of a problem as long as they both truly love each other.

I'm 18... I willing to go as far as about 24-25 to someone I would date.

exactly. i agree with you.

Blexicano · 01-06-2008, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Lil Boi Is SexyX

Honestly, I think depends on the persons maturity level some teenagers are more mature for their age and they are able to handle the age difference. Same thing with adults. Now im not saying a 40 year old should be dating a 12 year old...Yeah im not good at explaining things but im sure you get what I mean.

I can actually agree with him, like i know some people who can be REALLY mature for there age ( which is kinda scary for me lol).
BUT at the same time it just seems wrong to try dating someone out of tour age range when your 15, i would atleast wait till like 18( as already said)
me i would just stick with 15-18 or maybe 19.
i also disagree wtih the whole "age is just a number" lol

12-09-2007, 02:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
Adrastus Global Moderator Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Eastern Canada Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 865	Age Difference Man i've been told by so many people that "age is just a number" - Words from the wise. But is it really?! like can you tell me there is absolutely no problem with a 15 year old dating a 23 year old? even 22! Its just .. not suppose to be. A 15 year old just can't have the mature capabilities of a 22 year old. They are in two different worlds, the 22-23 year old is working , for a living, or 3-4 th year university! I mean i can see as you are getting older 18 - 22 seems good, 19 - 25+ its quite alright. But when you are pushing 15 -17 years old, it just bothers me, and it should bother the parents of their child. Just want to see what you guys think on the subject. __________________ Never argue with idiots, in the end they will just beat you with their experience.

01-05-2008, 08:16 AM	#12 (permalink)
mikeisdastud Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: las vegas Gender: Posts: 9	Well Idk... I think That Someone Who Is 15 Shouldn't date someone over 17 but thats just My Opinion... My Bf Is 18 and I'm 16 But He Just Barley Turned 18 so I don't See It As A Big Deal 2 years Isn't Much Of an Age Gap... But 15 to 23 Is ... But My Mom Is 34 and Husband Is 49 Which Is A pretty Big Age Gap And She Tells Me All The Time You Can't Put A Number On Love... And I'm Like Sure You Say That Now But If I was To Date Someone 12 Years Older than Me You Would Flip Out So It Just Depends On The Ages Being Compared. __________________ "For Every Action There Is An Equal And Opposite Reaction" -Newtons Third Law Of Motion-

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12-09-2007, 05:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
DubbLYU Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 309	i agree. i think that if you're still a teenager you have no business messing around with somebody over 20. that's ridiculous. you're not mature enough to deal with some of the things that a young adult deals with. i have a friend who's 16 years old and is dating a guy that is 24! i tried to talk to him about it, but he said that he could handle it. rolls eyes i hope all goes well.

12-09-2007, 05:23 PM	#3 (permalink)
Dan Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Massachusetts Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 160	I agree, I think that as you get older age differences can be greater... but at 15, 23 is really too old

12-09-2007, 11:29 PM	#4 (permalink)
t.A.T.u. Official GTF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: U.S.A. Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 624	I agree to some degree, but you can't really help it when a 15-17 luvs somebody who's 22. Moreover, I don't see a problem with a 15 yo dating somebody like 16-21, but over that I tend to not agree with so much. Then, an 18 yo is fine, to me, dating someone 19-29, but then any older is odd

12-11-2007, 05:47 PM	#5 (permalink)
Driver Official GTF Member Tournaments Won: 5 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Australia Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 169	There was a show on yesterday, a 16 year old dating a 40+ year old. It may have been the most freakiest thing i have ever seen, especially when the mum went, shes like 15 years older then me. I dont mind if they are maybe, 3/4 years apart, but anymore and conflictions could occur.

12-20-2007, 12:00 AM	#6 (permalink)
Dr. Oldsmobile Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Gender: Posts: 57	I disagree that age is just a number because so many things are determined by age not the least of it is maturity. The fact remains that an older person is going to be at an unfair advantage over a young person. In the example cited in the first post, a college student is definitely going to be light years ahead of a high school student in terms of maturity and experience which works to the detriment of the high school student. Also, some older folks may be just look at the young person as fresh meat which can adversely affect the younger person when he/she goes for future relationships. My basic point is that it is so much better and safer that folks stay within their own age groups so that they will not only be with people who share their life experiences but also will be on their same level maturity and experience wise.

01-01-2008, 05:04 PM	#8 (permalink)
Lil Boi Is SexyX Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 43	Honestly, I think depends on the persons maturity level some teenagers are more mature for their age and they are able to handle the age difference. Same thing with adults. Now im not saying a 40 year old should be dating a 12 year old...Yeah im not good at explaining things but im sure you get what I mean.

01-05-2008, 10:26 AM	#13 (permalink)
Blank Space Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: St. Louis, MO / Chicago, IL Age: 19 Gender: Posts: 139	It depends on the brain development of the younger person. As a younger teen, the brain is still developing and may not be capable of seeing the relationship in more than the one viewpoint. However, if both are adults and fully capable of decisions and understanding, then i really don't see much of a problem as long as they both truly love each other. I'm 18... I willing to go as far as about 24-25 to someone I would date.