Should I or should I not?

mycole6 · 03-25-2008, 12:10 PM

I have a new boyfriend. Joel. I've only seen him twice since we have started daring b/c he is always busy. But his reasons start to seem like excuses. I miss him so much b/c I haven't seen him over a week 1/2. Should I keep dating him or find some one else? This one is a biggy for me. If I stay with him I'll miss him b/c he's never here. If I break up with him I'll miss him b/c he's not mine anymore.

emo-Jordon · 03-25-2008, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by mycole6

I have a new boyfriend. Joel. I've only seen him twice since we have started daring b/c he is always busy. But his reasons start to seem like excuses. I miss him so much b/c I haven't seen him over a week 1/2. Should I keep dating him or find some one else? This one is a biggy for me. If I stay with him I'll miss him b/c he's never here. If I break up with him I'll miss him b/c he's not mine anymore.

the thing is in this circumstance only one decision is feasable. The question you have to ask yourself is does this relationship have the potential to go anywhere. If it has come to the point where you think he is just making excuses confront him about it or try to move on, it may be hard but it almost seems inevitable that this guy is gonna break your heart but if he changes after you confront him about it then you wont have to miss him at all, i hope things work out for you

bibutbabyigetit · 03-25-2008, 07:17 PM

If this is the same one who has problems kissing you publicly because of his parents, and he seems to start having excuses, he's second-guessing the whole thing. Take Jordon's advice is what I say, but I'm leaning toward second-guessing.

Dan · 03-25-2008, 08:22 PM

ask him straight up if hes making excuses or not. I'd give it a little longer

mycole6 · 03-25-2008, 08:34 PM

I dont wanna run him away. But I guess I can confront him tonight. I'll let you know what happens.

emo-Jordon · 03-25-2008, 08:37 PM

i hope it goes well for you

mycole6 · 03-25-2008, 08:40 PM

He said he really is busy. =[ too busy for me I guess.

emo-Jordon · 03-25-2008, 08:45 PM

i think then as hard as it is for you that you're gonna have to move on, i'd rather it was over now before he breaks ur heart later down the line

mycole6 · 03-25-2008, 08:48 PM

I love him but he's not going to be around enough. *sigh*

emo-Jordon · 03-25-2008, 08:53 PM

then stop holding onto him, its abvious he's not at the same stage you are or he'd be making the effort to see you, sorry if im sounding really harsh here, but its only cos i care

mycole6 · 03-25-2008, 11:11 PM

I cant let him go. He's all I have. If I lose him than I have no one. I do have some guys around that like me but there notlike him. They just want me for my looks and for sex.
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He loves me for who I am.

emo-Jordon · 03-25-2008, 11:17 PM

then just maje it clear to him that you want to see him more, follow your heart i know thats lame advice but the future is so uncertain, if he's all you have then don't let go, just do what feels right for you

mycole6 · 03-25-2008, 11:55 PM

I have no choice but to hold on to him. =[

emo-Jordon · 03-26-2008, 12:04 AM

but is it what you want?

mycole6 · 03-26-2008, 05:10 PM

I dont know any more. I give up....

03-25-2008, 12:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	Should I or should I not? I have a new boyfriend. Joel. I've only seen him twice since we have started daring b/c he is always busy. But his reasons start to seem like excuses. I miss him so much b/c I haven't seen him over a week 1/2. Should I keep dating him or find some one else? This one is a biggy for me. If I stay with him I'll miss him b/c he's never here. If I break up with him I'll miss him b/c he's not mine anymore. __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

03-25-2008, 07:17 PM	#3 (permalink)
bibutbabyigetit Official GTF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Gender: Posts: 21	If this is the same one who has problems kissing you publicly because of his parents, and he seems to start having excuses, he's second-guessing the whole thing. Take Jordon's advice is what I say, but I'm leaning toward second-guessing. __________________ The screen name says it all. Desperate attention seeker with a penchant for theatre queen.

03-25-2008, 08:34 PM	#5 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	I dont wanna run him away. But I guess I can confront him tonight. I'll let you know what happens. __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

03-25-2008, 08:40 PM	#7 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	He said he really is busy. =[ too busy for me I guess. __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

03-25-2008, 08:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	I love him but he's not going to be around enough. sigh __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

03-25-2008, 08:22 PM	#4 (permalink)
Dan Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Massachusetts Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 157	ask him straight up if hes making excuses or not. I'd give it a little longer

03-25-2008, 08:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
emo-Jordon Official GTF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Aberdeen, Scotland Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 64	i hope it goes well for you

03-25-2008, 08:45 PM	#8 (permalink)
emo-Jordon Official GTF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Aberdeen, Scotland Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 64	i think then as hard as it is for you that you're gonna have to move on, i'd rather it was over now before he breaks ur heart later down the line

03-25-2008, 08:53 PM	#10 (permalink)
emo-Jordon Official GTF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Aberdeen, Scotland Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 64	then stop holding onto him, its abvious he's not at the same stage you are or he'd be making the effort to see you, sorry if im sounding really harsh here, but its only cos i care

03-25-2008, 11:11 PM	#11 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	I cant let him go. He's all I have. If I lose him than I have no one. I do have some guys around that like me but there notlike him. They just want me for my looks and for sex. =[ He loves me for who I am. __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

03-25-2008, 11:17 PM	#12 (permalink)
emo-Jordon Official GTF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Aberdeen, Scotland Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 64	then just maje it clear to him that you want to see him more, follow your heart i know thats lame advice but the future is so uncertain, if he's all you have then don't let go, just do what feels right for you

03-25-2008, 11:55 PM	#13 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	I have no choice but to hold on to him. =[ __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

03-26-2008, 12:04 AM	#14 (permalink)
emo-Jordon Official GTF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Aberdeen, Scotland Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 64	but is it what you want?

03-26-2008, 05:10 PM	#15 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	I dont know any more. I give up.... __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

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