I think im gonna cry...

killingloneliness · 04-06-2008, 10:10 PM

ok

so last month, i liked a guy a lot. he said liked me too. so we were happy for a while, tho we hadnt really met yet. then one day, he told me that he never really liked me at all. that he was just USING me to get over his last boyfriend. so basically, he broke my heart and i cried and cut myself a lot.

now, i have another guy, we know each other personally, he goes to my school and stuff, and we both like each other a lot. i wanna make a relationship with him, but i cant because everytime i think to, i think of the other guy b4 him and become helpless and depressed. so i never got over the other guy and i loved him and i just cant do anything

i wanna make a relationship with the new guy, but i cant bear it... advice???

killingloneliness · 04-07-2008, 10:24 PM

please sumbody help me

Angelknight18 · 04-08-2008, 08:58 PM

This is a tough one. It is very hard to forget the one you loved. But sweety, life must go on. If you have the opportunity to be with someone else and you aren't in a relationship. GO FOR IT!

yingyang69 · 04-08-2008, 10:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Angelknight18

This is a tough one. It is very hard to forget the one you loved. But sweety, life must go on. If you have the opportunity to be with someone else and you aren't in a relationship. GO FOR IT!

i'm not sure "go for it" is the best attitude....
maby more like...give it a little more time....try talking to this new guy...maby he'll understand and give you some time...im not saying forget it alltogether...or even let it all fall apart and lose your chance now...but if you don't wait then you might wind up using him the same way he did you....but it might be helpfull....
>.<
i think i just went in a circle...crap

if you go for it:
you may get over him faster
you might be doing what he did
you may break up and wind up depressed again (but that's a given just like
you may be very happy with him)

wait:
might heal more
might all fall apart

forget it alltogether:
you lose him
you stay in fear
you may be depressed...

i say talk to him and try to see if he'll help...with out you using him...maby getting time...

i hope i helped >.<

theaznway · 04-10-2008, 01:23 AM

Yeah, it takes time...my last guy problems changed me a lot. I'm still not over it, I don't think I ever will be but you have to wait a while before you're ready to move on. Just make plans with the guy for a future relationship. And say you're not ready now. then start it up when you feel like you're ready.

I'm still waiting for a new guy to come along and it's definitely hard. Nobody tops who you love...so you just have to wait until the perfect person comes along to like. Receive the same kind of love I think. I dunno hard to explain. Hope you get what I mean =]

AndreHasDied. · 04-10-2008, 06:09 PM

well i think more on the cynical side of things as in like "im not gonna stop my life and devote it to someone who does not even give to shits about me." kinda attitude. you have to just keep the fond memories, move on and make more. easier said than done i know but you have to start somewhere.

forcefield081 · 06-28-2008, 05:29 AM

Well the thing is, you don't need to feel bad about it, everything is different and it will be different. If you think he's got something to do with the guy before, then it will "be". If you think it positively, I think you might be getting along just fine ^.^ Don't worry about it, just don't think negative things. >.<

Silent · 06-28-2008, 12:15 PM

hmm, this is an old topic which was brought back to the top after 2 1/2 months... I don't know if its still going on, but I'll reply anyways. To start, let me say, that guy is a bitch. An asshole. These are the kind of people I can't stand. As much as you may not know it now, its better that you are not with him. If he is a big enough jerk to do this to you, he would end up making a horrible boyfriend. I feel sorry for whoever else dates that jerk. You won't realize it until later, but you will be extremely glad you are not with him. Please just give it a little bit of time. I promise you will feel this way. Please try not to cut. If you need anyone to talk to about this, I'm here. You can PM me on the forums, or log into MSN and I'll be willing to talk to you.

As I've said, this may be old... you may have a bf already or something... who knows.

04-06-2008, 10:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
killingloneliness Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MA Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 128	I think im gonna cry... ok so last month, i liked a guy a lot. he said liked me too. so we were happy for a while, tho we hadnt really met yet. then one day, he told me that he never really liked me at all. that he was just USING me to get over his last boyfriend. so basically, he broke my heart and i cried and cut myself a lot. now, i have another guy, we know each other personally, he goes to my school and stuff, and we both like each other a lot. i wanna make a relationship with him, but i cant because everytime i think to, i think of the other guy b4 him and become helpless and depressed. so i never got over the other guy and i loved him and i just cant do anything i wanna make a relationship with the new guy, but i cant bear it... advice???

04-07-2008, 10:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
killingloneliness Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MA Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 128	please sumbody help me __________________ Live. Love. Let Die.

04-08-2008, 08:58 PM	#3 (permalink)
Angelknight18 Official GTF Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Spring Grove Gender: Posts: 62	This is a tough one. It is very hard to forget the one you loved. But sweety, life must go on. If you have the opportunity to be with someone else and you aren't in a relationship. GO FOR IT! __________________ I am just Fabulous. How Bout You?

04-10-2008, 06:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
AndreHasDied. Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: a hellhole in New York Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 10	well i think more on the cynical side of things as in like "im not gonna stop my life and devote it to someone who does not even give to shits about me." kinda attitude. you have to just keep the fond memories, move on and make more. easier said than done i know but you have to start somewhere. __________________ Myspace.com/Coded_by_god

06-28-2008, 12:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
Silent Official GTF Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Candyland Gender: Posts: 241	hmm, this is an old topic which was brought back to the top after 2 1/2 months... I don't know if its still going on, but I'll reply anyways. To start, let me say, that guy is a bitch. An asshole. These are the kind of people I can't stand. As much as you may not know it now, its better that you are not with him. If he is a big enough jerk to do this to you, he would end up making a horrible boyfriend. I feel sorry for whoever else dates that jerk. You won't realize it until later, but you will be extremely glad you are not with him. Please just give it a little bit of time. I promise you will feel this way. Please try not to cut. If you need anyone to talk to about this, I'm here. You can PM me on the forums, or log into MSN and I'll be willing to talk to you. As I've said, this may be old... you may have a bf already or something... who knows. __________________ You can only trust yourself.

04-10-2008, 01:23 AM	#5 (permalink)
theaznway Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Edmonds, WA Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 68	Yeah, it takes time...my last guy problems changed me a lot. I'm still not over it, I don't think I ever will be but you have to wait a while before you're ready to move on. Just make plans with the guy for a future relationship. And say you're not ready now. then start it up when you feel like you're ready. I'm still waiting for a new guy to come along and it's definitely hard. Nobody tops who you love...so you just have to wait until the perfect person comes along to like. Receive the same kind of love I think. I dunno hard to explain. Hope you get what I mean =]

06-28-2008, 05:29 AM	#7 (permalink)
forcefield081 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Jakarta Age: 15 Gender: Posts: 8	Well the thing is, you don't need to feel bad about it, everything is different and it will be different. If you think he's got something to do with the guy before, then it will "be". If you think it positively, I think you might be getting along just fine ^.^ Don't worry about it, just don't think negative things. >.<

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