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tob51590 · 06-06-2008, 02:06 AM

Okay so i hope i put this in the right message board section.

Well theres this gay guy that went to my school(graduated a year before me)and we've been talking for a long time and after like a month, i just spilled my guts to him and to me it seemed like he was flattered so then i asked him out and he said no becuz hes not out of the closet...well just recently i started talkin to a guy an hour and a half away from me(really not that far, its about as far as my sister lives from me)and like he has made me feel soo great about myself, like noone has really been able to do that...i hate my body and i sent him pics of it and he likes my body and he doesnt see anything wrong with me and hes just sooo perfect...well now me and the first guy have been talkin some and last night we were talkin about the beach and i was like "we should go to the beach together" and he loves that idea...but hes still not out and we both end up feeling lonely and he knows how to stop that feeling and i dont and he still needs to break out of his shell becuz every so often he realizes that he doesnt need to think about what other ppl think of him and i think he may need a boyfriend to help him come out of the closet...so now im stuck in between these 2 guys and im hurting myself about it because i just really don't know what i need to do...I've never had a local boyfriend so being in this situation is really scary for me because I don't want to make the wrong decision.

WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!?!

rileycoyote · 06-06-2008, 06:45 AM

have you been on dates with the 2nd guy, or are you just at the talking stage with him too? my answer is going to sound a bit slutty, but what's wrong with dating both guys for a little bit? how are you supposed to figure out which guy you like best until you go on a couple of dates with each of them. just go out and have with both guys a few times, and then eventually you might find yourself leaning towards one guy.

tob51590 · 06-06-2008, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by rileycoyote

have you been on dates with the 2nd guy, or are you just at the talking stage with him too? my answer is going to sound a bit slutty, but what's wrong with dating both guys for a little bit? how are you supposed to figure out which guy you like best until you go on a couple of dates with each of them. just go out and have with both guys a few times, and then eventually you might find yourself leaning towards one guy.

me and the 2nd guy are just at the talking stage...i know where the first guy works and one night when i got out of a college class, i went to his work to get a drink(and also because i knew he was working and i wanted to visit him)and the next day he told me that he was surprised that i had come in the night before...me and the 1st guy won't date(yet)because he's not out and he's not ready for a relationship...but i've totally fallen for him soo long ago...but now ive also fallen for the 2nd guy and he sort of knows i like him, but not really how much i like him

Mike · 06-06-2008, 09:27 PM

Coming from a person who has had a few internet boyfriends .. here's my advice:

Go see either of these guys. Talking on AIM or Yahoo is cheap, and it's really easy for me to say "ohhh .. you're cute!". I have plenty of junk in my trunk, so don't take this personally. Why do you think they're afraid to see you? Saying that because they're in the closet is really lame. You don't have to go outside of your/their house to go on a "date". Be creative .. rent a movie and cuddle on the couch or something.

As for how to pick between the 2, well .. that's you call. My suggestion is to make sure you know both of these guys really well before you make a stupid move and sleep with them .. you're going to have to break your heart for one of them if you're interested in a relationship. Although, you'd be surprised how satisfying a close friendship can be.

Good luck.

tob51590 · 06-06-2008, 11:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mike

Coming from a person who has had a few internet boyfriends .. here's my advice:

Go see either of these guys. Talking on AIM or Yahoo is cheap, and it's really easy for me to say "ohhh .. you're cute!". I have plenty of junk in my trunk, so don't take this personally. Why do you think they're afraid to see you? Saying that because they're in the closet is really lame. You don't have to go outside of your/their house to go on a "date". Be creative .. rent a movie and cuddle on the couch or something.

As for how to pick between the 2, well .. that's you call. My suggestion is to make sure you know both of these guys really well before you make a stupid move and sleep with them .. you're going to have to break your heart for one of them if you're interested in a relationship. Although, you'd be surprised how satisfying a close friendship can be.

Good luck.

well i didnt ask the second one out but earlier today he was like "i know you like me and i know you want us to date, but i think we could be good friends" but a couple days ago he was sayin that he could date me sometime becuz who knows what the future holds...but as for the first guy(and i understand exactly where he is coming from cuz we went to the same high school), he wants to just find more friends for right now...maybe something will spark between me and him but its not clear to see right now...but thanks for replying to this!!!!

06-06-2008, 02:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
tob51590 Official GTF Member Space Invaders Champion! Pool Jam - 10 Minute Game Champion! Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: West Virginia Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 15	New problem Okay so i hope i put this in the right message board section. Well theres this gay guy that went to my school(graduated a year before me)and we've been talking for a long time and after like a month, i just spilled my guts to him and to me it seemed like he was flattered so then i asked him out and he said no becuz hes not out of the closet...well just recently i started talkin to a guy an hour and a half away from me(really not that far, its about as far as my sister lives from me)and like he has made me feel soo great about myself, like noone has really been able to do that...i hate my body and i sent him pics of it and he likes my body and he doesnt see anything wrong with me and hes just sooo perfect...well now me and the first guy have been talkin some and last night we were talkin about the beach and i was like "we should go to the beach together" and he loves that idea...but hes still not out and we both end up feeling lonely and he knows how to stop that feeling and i dont and he still needs to break out of his shell becuz every so often he realizes that he doesnt need to think about what other ppl think of him and i think he may need a boyfriend to help him come out of the closet...so now im stuck in between these 2 guys and im hurting myself about it because i just really don't know what i need to do...I've never had a local boyfriend so being in this situation is really scary for me because I don't want to make the wrong decision. WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!?!

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06-06-2008, 06:45 AM	#2 (permalink)
rileycoyote Official GTF Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Baltimore, MD Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 632	have you been on dates with the 2nd guy, or are you just at the talking stage with him too? my answer is going to sound a bit slutty, but what's wrong with dating both guys for a little bit? how are you supposed to figure out which guy you like best until you go on a couple of dates with each of them. just go out and have with both guys a few times, and then eventually you might find yourself leaning towards one guy.

06-06-2008, 09:27 PM	#4 (permalink)
Mike Official GTF Member Tetris Champion! Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: California Age: 22 Gender: Posts: 403	Coming from a person who has had a few internet boyfriends .. here's my advice: Go see either of these guys. Talking on AIM or Yahoo is cheap, and it's really easy for me to say "ohhh .. you're cute!". I have plenty of junk in my trunk, so don't take this personally. Why do you think they're afraid to see you? Saying that because they're in the closet is really lame. You don't have to go outside of your/their house to go on a "date". Be creative .. rent a movie and cuddle on the couch or something. As for how to pick between the 2, well .. that's you call. My suggestion is to make sure you know both of these guys really well before you make a stupid move and sleep with them .. you're going to have to break your heart for one of them if you're interested in a relationship. Although, you'd be surprised how satisfying a close friendship can be. Good luck.