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Old 01-22-2008, 09:19 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Does anyone think I will ever get a bf or get a lover??

DO you think I can ever find a bf or find true love??
I ask this cuz I am not a hot guy with a six pack or lots of money...
I am a kinda fat person with a small potbelly...
What kind of gay will ever think to fall in love with me???

Shit I mean look at me I am 180 pounds and only 5 feet 6 inches...That is fat!!
And on top of that I have ADHD...and my doctors diagnosed me with a condition called Aspergers syndrome
Here is some infromation on people who have this condition http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/aswhatisit.html
If you read it...Well that is a lot of how I am..Except that I have an exectionally high IQ and that I am not overly sensitive to sounds, tastes, smells, and sights. Other than that I am the testbook definition of it.
I am such a freak for having this..What kind of gay guy will love a freak like me??
I will never be dream guy anyone wants to be with..I will just be the dork no man would ever want to be with..
The only good qualitys about me is that I try to make everone in my life happy and comfortable around me but other than that nothing...
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Old 01-22-2008, 10:42 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Dude, we've been over this, so many times before. No matter what you have, it doesn't matter. Gain some self-esteem, no one will date you if you don't seem confident. That is the best advice I can give you. It was given to you before, yet you obviously didn't take it into consideration. Try seeking some help, a friend/psychologist/parents, just someone to talk to.
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Old 01-22-2008, 11:57 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Well then I think my problem is all a part of me not beliving in myself then huh?
Maybe quit beating myself up so bad should help too
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Old 02-03-2008, 11:38 AM   #4 (permalink)
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there is a theory, if you give someone negative self esteem, they will improve upon it,, however if its yourself giving the negative self esteem, you only see your imperfections as worse
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Old 02-03-2008, 12:01 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I have cousins with aspergers. What are your symptoms. A lot of the time they are insignifigant and minor. Anyway, do you think you're the only 180pound gay guy? No, you're not. Thats nothing to feel bad about. You're a nice guy and soon people will see that.
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im not very attractive and i always felt the same way. i gave it sum time and just decided to be happy how i am, and i met an amazing guy and we r practically dating!

i guess it takes time is all. just try to feel better about urself and sumbody will want u for sure!
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once again, personaliaty is everything, because looks change, the person dosent
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Old 02-04-2008, 09:31 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Yeah, changing your attitude is a huge thing! Once you begin to think positive, the better you will feel and the more confident you will feel. A lot of people I know LOVE confidence. Anyways, not everyone has the perfect body, not even me. I am a bit chubby, but my attitude is in the right place and I have had sooo many people say they don't want me to lose weight, and that they like my body the way it is. Just don't give up, there is someone out there for everybody!
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always have good self esteem... lack of self esteem is a turn off for guys.
but you should keep your heads up high.. you're still young and you have alot of time to find a lover :] trust me :]]

i am hearing imparied.. but i didnt let it stop me and i accept the way i am :]
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Aren't you supposedly Autistic as well?
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