Long Distance, but Not-Really... HELP!!!

billyyesko · 01-28-2008, 08:16 PM

Ok. So my boyfriend Ben like, technically lives in the same city as me, but he's been away at this hospital place for like, almost 5 months now. He has diabetes and "behavioral" problems. I'm like, feeling completely restrained by the fact that we're still technically together, but i'm not getting anywhere with this. I really don't wanna be with him anymore, but i'd feel horrible breaking up with him because of this. Do any of you have any suggestions?

DubbLYU · 01-28-2008, 08:45 PM

you can't force yourself to be with somebody that you don't want to be with. i understand that he's in a bad situation but i think he'll understand. talk to him about it.

billyyesko · 01-28-2008, 08:56 PM

I just don't know how i'd break it to him :/

Jason4chris · 01-28-2008, 09:44 PM

sorry I cant help you, I had a long distance boyfriend a couple years ago, he was 5 years older than me, and he was a nice guy, but he just wasn't my type.

I wanted to break up with him, but he was depressed and suicidal, so I was too scared to.

the only reason I'm not still with him is because we almost went broke and had to loose the internet for a couple months, and I just never contacted him again, and he never contacted me either. I feel bad for him, but I hope he found someone closer.

JakeyBoi · 01-28-2008, 11:14 PM

I stay away from long distance. But your case you have to be happy not him. If you want to then go with it as long as it makes you happy

Clint Face · 01-29-2008, 12:47 AM

tragically you must eliminate the factors of care, and think for your self in this one... five months is a long time and some can do it... but in your case i dont know what to tell you... you have some doubts in you mind and such... but that is what you need to think about. in fact it is as some of the others have said... bottom line, are you happy. isnt that what a real healthy relationship is and dose for you. its life and you should be happy.
your move.

mycole6 · 01-29-2008, 01:41 AM

Most of mine have been long distance.. I've had maybe like to real close but mostly they presist a few states away.. it sux *tears*

billyyesko · 01-29-2008, 03:09 PM

I totally understand that if he like, lived there to being with that like, I would break up with him, but he still technically lives in Hagerstown, MD. But this hospital is in like, South VA. Richmond to be exact (Not that alot of you would know what i'm talking about, but still lol). And like, it totally sucks because I feel like i'm obligated to do absolutely nothing in this situation. But if I break up with him, it'll reeeeeally suck because it'll be over the phone, you know? But I don't wanna refer to him as a long distance boyfriend, because I mean, he's really not. I just haven't seen him in person or anything for like 5 months. I mean, when he was here, we were great - we like, went places together, hung out at each other's houses, had sex (alot), and like... Now i'm just... uugh... depressed I guess. I hate this. And now we got Valentine's day, which absolutely nothing is going to happen for.

Oh, well... I guess I just need to get it over with and break up with him. I really do like him, but I just can't keep doing this.

Thanks for y'alls help guys <3

dragon072891 · 02-04-2008, 01:14 AM

i would say that if your not happy,, then you should try to render that situation.. however, explain that its not the situation as the reason,, its just that your heart isnt there

01-28-2008, 08:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
billyyesko Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Hagerstown, MD Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 20	Long Distance, but Not-Really... HELP!!! Ok. So my boyfriend Ben like, technically lives in the same city as me, but he's been away at this hospital place for like, almost 5 months now. He has diabetes and "behavioral" problems. I'm like, feeling completely restrained by the fact that we're still technically together, but i'm not getting anywhere with this. I really don't wanna be with him anymore, but i'd feel horrible breaking up with him because of this. Do any of you have any suggestions?

01-28-2008, 08:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
DubbLYU Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 309	you can't force yourself to be with somebody that you don't want to be with. i understand that he's in a bad situation but i think he'll understand. talk to him about it. __________________

01-28-2008, 08:56 PM	#3 (permalink)
billyyesko Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Hagerstown, MD Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 20	I just don't know how i'd break it to him :/ __________________

01-29-2008, 12:47 AM	#6 (permalink)
Clint Face Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Utah... thats all ill say... Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 53	tragically you must eliminate the factors of care, and think for your self in this one... five months is a long time and some can do it... but in your case i dont know what to tell you... you have some doubts in you mind and such... but that is what you need to think about. in fact it is as some of the others have said... bottom line, are you happy. isnt that what a real healthy relationship is and dose for you. its life and you should be happy. your move. __________________ Clint... Oh Tangled Weaves In Web

01-29-2008, 01:41 AM	#7 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	Most of mine have been long distance.. I've had maybe like to real close but mostly they presist a few states away.. it sux tears __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

01-28-2008, 09:44 PM	#4 (permalink)
Jason4chris Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Penticton, BC Age: 18 Posts: 37	sorry I cant help you, I had a long distance boyfriend a couple years ago, he was 5 years older than me, and he was a nice guy, but he just wasn't my type. I wanted to break up with him, but he was depressed and suicidal, so I was too scared to. the only reason I'm not still with him is because we almost went broke and had to loose the internet for a couple months, and I just never contacted him again, and he never contacted me either. I feel bad for him, but I hope he found someone closer.

01-28-2008, 11:14 PM	#5 (permalink)
JakeyBoi Official GTF Member Harpoon Lagoon Champion! Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Jersey Baby Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 181	I stay away from long distance. But your case you have to be happy not him. If you want to then go with it as long as it makes you happy

01-29-2008, 03:09 PM	#8 (permalink)
billyyesko Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Hagerstown, MD Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 20	I totally understand that if he like, lived there to being with that like, I would break up with him, but he still technically lives in Hagerstown, MD. But this hospital is in like, South VA. Richmond to be exact (Not that alot of you would know what i'm talking about, but still lol). And like, it totally sucks because I feel like i'm obligated to do absolutely nothing in this situation. But if I break up with him, it'll reeeeeally suck because it'll be over the phone, you know? But I don't wanna refer to him as a long distance boyfriend, because I mean, he's really not. I just haven't seen him in person or anything for like 5 months. I mean, when he was here, we were great - we like, went places together, hung out at each other's houses, had sex (alot), and like... Now i'm just... uugh... depressed I guess. I hate this. And now we got Valentine's day, which absolutely nothing is going to happen for. Oh, well... I guess I just need to get it over with and break up with him. I really do like him, but I just can't keep doing this. Thanks for y'alls help guys <3 __________________

02-04-2008, 01:14 AM	#9 (permalink)
dragon072891 GTF Donator! Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: mobile, Alabama Gender: Posts: 1,152	i would say that if your not happy,, then you should try to render that situation.. however, explain that its not the situation as the reason,, its just that your heart isnt there __________________ life is what you make it, it dose'nt come pre packaged,, so i say do a good job because your the only one that cant escape it

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