Sex is... odd?

jspoons1293 · 07-18-2008, 03:22 AM

Hey, so... I've had sex w/ a guy and it really wasn't all that great, and neither were blowjobs or making out or anything. It's not any better when a girl does it. For some reason, sex just doesn't seem to appeal to me that much. I don't know how to describe it. It's something that I have a desire to do, but the actual act... doesn't seem to do much for me. Maybe it's just been bad sex when I've had it, but for me what I think I am really after is just contact. I want to just feel close, I want to touch people, and the more I can feel, the better it is. It sounds creepy on a forum, but it's not at all creepy in reality.

I'm just wondering if anyone else feels the same, or if I'm just odd. lol

Seth · 07-18-2008, 07:27 AM

You must have had some truly shit shags. And blodjobs are shit anyway.

Plastic · 07-18-2008, 07:39 AM

Maybe you're "A" sexual. I think that's the word for it where you have no sexual desire and fancy neither men or women, maybe you got this confused with being gay.

dragon072891 · 07-18-2008, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by jspoons1293

Hey, so... I've had sex w/ a guy and it really wasn't all that great, and neither were blowjobs or making out or anything. It's not any better when a girl does it. For some reason, sex just doesn't seem to appeal to me that much. I don't know how to describe it. It's something that I have a desire to do, but the actual act... doesn't seem to do much for me. Maybe it's just been bad sex when I've had it, but for me what I think I am really after is just contact. I want to just feel close, I want to touch people, and the more I can feel, the better it is. It sounds creepy on a forum, but it's not at all creepy in reality.

I'm just wondering if anyone else feels the same, or if I'm just odd. lol

im in about the same boat with you
(minus the female part)
i have a very very low sex drive, and low sexual appetite

ItsxBillyx · 07-18-2008, 12:44 PM

Hmm, no, it doesnt sound creepy to me.

I personally havent had sex, but i can understand
where you are coming from.
I blame society.
I do not say this regrettably or anything, but we are
so hyped for sex and sexuality that we feel as if it
is supposed to be great. The sex act should be just
as euphoric as everyone says it is.
This isnt necessarily true, because people like you
and even i sometimes dont want to just have sex
with everyone we are attracted to, but rather enjoy
and feel their presence, and let that be an experience
all in its own.
I know i am one to talk since i havent had sex, but there
have been quite a few times where ive seen someone who
was drop dead gorgeous that i didnt really want to have
sex with, but rather just feel them, be around them,
you know?

Chicken_Nugg · 07-18-2008, 05:28 PM

i'm the same way.. i've had sex and well... eh.. i don't really like it.. blowjobs i love but having sex isn't something that comes to me.. im just like how is this appealing? it's ok in my book but not something that is important to me.. more cuddling and kissing is what i love

make out kid · 07-19-2008, 09:03 AM

well then, gotta to say i'm quite the opposite, i've had some experiences that have left me unable to move for about half an hour, so yeah, try everything till you find that thing that gets you to like mulitple orgasm and what not.

i learnt that vibratng cock rings truely make it better, try one of them

Mike · 07-27-2008, 11:15 AM

No .. it's not odd. I would give up having sex in a heartbeat to be able to have a perfect partner in a romantic relationship. You know .. the guy who is always there for you .. is loyal to you .. and REALLY means it when he says "I love you" ..

You're perfectly fine .. and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Sex is overrated.

07-18-2008, 03:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
jspoons1293 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Shaker Hts, OH Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 419	Sex is... odd? Hey, so... I've had sex w/ a guy and it really wasn't all that great, and neither were blowjobs or making out or anything. It's not any better when a girl does it. For some reason, sex just doesn't seem to appeal to me that much. I don't know how to describe it. It's something that I have a desire to do, but the actual act... doesn't seem to do much for me. Maybe it's just been bad sex when I've had it, but for me what I think I am really after is just contact. I want to just feel close, I want to touch people, and the more I can feel, the better it is. It sounds creepy on a forum, but it's not at all creepy in reality. I'm just wondering if anyone else feels the same, or if I'm just odd. lol __________________ "Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad." --Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

07-18-2008, 07:27 AM	#2 (permalink)
Seth Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: manchestaaaaaoor Gender: Posts: 1,052	You must have had some truly shit shags. And blodjobs are shit anyway. __________________ myspace.com/kthxdan

07-18-2008, 07:39 AM	#3 (permalink)
Plastic Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: SE England Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 781	Maybe you're "A" sexual. I think that's the word for it where you have no sexual desire and fancy neither men or women, maybe you got this confused with being gay. __________________

07-18-2008, 12:44 PM	#5 (permalink)
ItsxBillyx Official GTF Member Penguin Bashing Champion! Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Eastlake, Ohio Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 288	Hmm, no, it doesnt sound creepy to me. I personally havent had sex, but i can understand where you are coming from. I blame society. I do not say this regrettably or anything, but we are so hyped for sex and sexuality that we feel as if it is supposed to be great. The sex act should be just as euphoric as everyone says it is. This isnt necessarily true, because people like you and even i sometimes dont want to just have sex with everyone we are attracted to, but rather enjoy and feel their presence, and let that be an experience all in its own. I know i am one to talk since i havent had sex, but there have been quite a few times where ive seen someone who was drop dead gorgeous that i didnt really want to have sex with, but rather just feel them, be around them, you know? __________________ MySpace it, boys! http://www.myspace.com/bdoggzplace Billy -16- -Gay- -Single ;]- "I took my love down to Violet Hill, There we sat in snow, All that time he was silent still, So if you love me, won't you let me know? If you love me, won't you let me know?"

07-27-2008, 11:15 AM	#8 (permalink)
Mike Official GTF Member Tetris Champion! Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: California Age: 22 Gender: Posts: 389	No .. it's not odd. I would give up having sex in a heartbeat to be able to have a perfect partner in a romantic relationship. You know .. the guy who is always there for you .. is loyal to you .. and REALLY means it when he says "I love you" .. You're perfectly fine .. and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Sex is overrated. __________________ Still trying to figure out something to put here ..

07-18-2008, 05:28 PM	#6 (permalink)
Chicken_Nugg Official GTF Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Tacoma, Washington Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 212	i'm the same way.. i've had sex and well... eh.. i don't really like it.. blowjobs i love but having sex isn't something that comes to me.. im just like how is this appealing? it's ok in my book but not something that is important to me.. more cuddling and kissing is what i love

07-19-2008, 09:03 AM	#7 (permalink)
make out kid Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: leeds Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 226	well then, gotta to say i'm quite the opposite, i've had some experiences that have left me unable to move for about half an hour, so yeah, try everything till you find that thing that gets you to like mulitple orgasm and what not. i learnt that vibratng cock rings truely make it better, try one of them

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