how important is sex to you in a relationship?

DubbLYU · 01-28-2008, 06:53 PM

is sex really that important to you in a relationship? i mean, sex is good and all but it's not necessarily one of the things at the top of my list. i think companionship and loyalty are the most important factors in a relationship. i'd rather be sitting on a couch, huddled together, watching movies any day of the week. does anybody else feel the same way? if not, what is your opinion on this topic?

Kainspoher · 01-28-2008, 07:41 PM

Sex is truly the last thing I'm looking for, I'm more for companionship.

**Adrastus** · 01-28-2008, 07:58 PM

Iunno, see, i value my independence greatly so much, so im going to say sex is probably a bit higher then most people. But i would still enjoy all the other things just as, much if not more.

I'd take more pride and joy out of knowing I can be there for their support, I'm not to fond of being supported. I usually take it as an act of pity even if its not meant to be.
In other words, i'd want to be considered more of the "man" . . .i have those basic instincts, and feelings. The need to care for I suppose.

iunno ahaha

probably looking anywhere from 30-45% sex, and the rest of it is 70-55% :\

What can i say?

attore · 01-28-2008, 08:20 PM

Spooning is important to me

sexyjoshiepoo · 01-28-2008, 08:36 PM

well sex is not much important at all..its just a way u can show love for ur bf and stuff for fun and more...i weather be cuddling up with my man and kiss and watch movies and have a good time,,,someone to love me ..protect me and more..i never had a bfyet so this is my hopes

Lil Boi Is SexyX · 01-28-2008, 09:34 PM

To me sex is that important but it does play a role in my relationships. But I also find other things important to like just chilling with you're bf, talking, cuddling.. etc.

Jason4chris · 01-28-2008, 09:50 PM

Sex to me is just another way of sharing your love with the person you care about. Just like snuggling watching a movie, or holding each other beside a camp fire. It doesn't matter to me if we have sex or not, just as long as I'm with the guy that I care about.

t.A.T.u. · 01-28-2008, 10:23 PM

To me, sex, eventhough I've never had it lol, is really important. Sex, to me, is more than just sex, it's making love, being able to show how comfortable you are with the person you love; comfortable meaning you feel okay and comfortable with getting naked with them, no clothes on, doing stuff you wouldn't want to do with anyone else but him/her. It shows just how much you love the one you're with and that you want to give him/her everything and anything, pleasure, and a want for them. In my eyes, relationships without love-making is just not really a relationship. Sure, you can have compasionship and loyalty, but, to me, making love just brings it out all the way, in a way which you can't do without it. I'm not just talking about a simple fuck either, that means nothing. Idk, I'm prolly not making any sense but I can't really put it into words, the way I feel about it so.....yea! lol
Also, don't get me wrong, a relationship needs all those other things, but to me, making love is really important.

Clint Face · 01-29-2008, 12:55 AM

Why is it that individuals reduce everything down to sex, isn't it more than that… to me it is, and it somewhat offends me when, that is all some individuals think of… I'm a bit of a nympho and I'm not even that bad, its more, just the joking, talking, referring it to even the most simplest of things… talking of it as if it was something so light or common to an everyday activity… but its not… see for me, and don't take me wrong, if I wanted it there are enough people that I know, to where if I wanted it I could have sex everyday more than once… and I will be honest its my regret but I've had that, but why… doesn't it or wouldn't it loose its meaning, and maybe its that very reason that other people don't treasure even the word itself, as I do… for me sex is like a kiss but more…..

A kiss… a unity, and somewhat of an agreement between two individuals… stating a form of love that is deeper than that of just the love that two friends share…it says the things that you cant find in word… "telling secrets but with our mouths"… when linking with another in this form, you feel the first signs of what it is to truly be in love… to be alive, with another person… a kiss can tell you everything there is to know… if it can grow or not, you begin to feel this in you heart…

Sex is more, why do you sleep with someone or why do you make out, its not just because its fun or it has its pleasure, but more its because you care, and you love them, and you want to show them in that special way, that most treasured thing the one thing you can give or take according to the one you love… at least that is what it should be… for me its not about the sex, it is fun and the icing on the cake… but for me, when I like some one I'm not thinking about sleeping with them, but more just how I am going to treasure every second I am with them… how I can make those moments last forever… I just enjoy it all, whether it is just sitting with one another or being able to sit and kiss the individual to hold them down and talk to them, but when I do get to the extent of the whole sex thing its because I want to share something deeper… it is because I have tried to keep it a treasure and safe and a special moment, a proclamation to all for the two that dare to love, when it comes down to it, I feel its time, not only for just sex but more… when sleeping with me I tell you the world and just everything that it is to me… and then how much of that world you mean to me where you fit into the broad picture… how things really are between the two of us…

sex isn't always about the pleasure or fun you can have, but more its about the care, the desire to be, it is about two individuals and the love they share…

Clear Caution:

I am only Human…we are individuals in this world, we are all on a rail system of principals, standard, ways by which we live our lives, constantly moving never ending. Though there are times when the rails buckle and weaken, causing us to lose control and get week our selves… then most of what we are is lost, but always to be remembered is we aren't far gone…

I've failed at this so many times… sex is more but I myself have abused it. Regrettably it is to my shame that I do get weak and forget some of the things that I should and do stand for, and even stand against… but the love that I have for a individual is overwhelming and often a reason someone will leave. I am too much at times… even for my self. I just feel they are my one and ill share all that I can and feel… its love not just sex. But as I said sometime misunderstood…

I am sorry If I have pushed you, if I have not waited until the proper timing for some of the things that we have done... if I have Dated you and not have done as you would have liked or had wished me to… Please forgive me, if you have been a victim of the past… of the old me… of those times when senses have become overwhelming. Then it is to you that I am sorry.

And to others a warning, not to stay away, just simply to understand… we all have bodies in our closets…

Clint Face · 01-29-2008, 01:04 AM

that was an article that i wrote some time ago. and like everything else has found its place in my blogs.

you see Marcia said that there are three factors to any relationship; Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. you must strive to achieve all of these if you really want a healthy relationship.

however i think that there is timing for everything, and sex is often abused... but i think that if you love each other, it wont be only that, but the love as well... and of course all the other little corks you experience.

im with you on this one... i dont think you have to have it. in moderation yes, but think about it... is sex all that its about. can you two just be with out it, to simply live?

mycole6 · 01-29-2008, 01:32 AM

I believe sexy is only purposable when the moment leads to it, its not important a all unless your love wills it. Sex may be great as a feeling but it has no effect or purpose among your relationship? =P

Seth · 01-29-2008, 12:01 PM

Absolute Necessity.

DollieBoy15 · 01-29-2008, 07:22 PM

Its a need, i guess. I dont expect it on the first date- But I think it's the ultimate way you and your partner know you are comfortable with each other enough to do that. Once someone is fine with having sex with me, it just proves they love me. I can normally tell when a guy wants only sex and nothing else.

...But unfortunately, I'm weak. xD I love sex, but I try not to abuse it. It basically depends on the circumstances.
-Anthony

dragon072891 · 02-04-2008, 10:29 PM

not at all...

im more of a mental/personaliaty person,, ,

sex is just a bonus

make out kid · 02-05-2008, 02:56 PM

its not the most important thing at the start, but as the realtionship gets serious should be a natural thing to do i see it as

01-28-2008, 06:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
DubbLYU Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 309	how important is sex to you in a relationship? is sex really that important to you in a relationship? i mean, sex is good and all but it's not necessarily one of the things at the top of my list. i think companionship and loyalty are the most important factors in a relationship. i'd rather be sitting on a couch, huddled together, watching movies any day of the week. does anybody else feel the same way? if not, what is your opinion on this topic? __________________

01-28-2008, 07:58 PM	#3 (permalink)
Adrastus Global Moderator Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Eastern Canada Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 864	Iunno, see, i value my independence greatly so much, so im going to say sex is probably a bit higher then most people. But i would still enjoy all the other things just as, much if not more. I'd take more pride and joy out of knowing I can be there for their support, I'm not to fond of being supported. I usually take it as an act of pity even if its not meant to be. In other words, i'd want to be considered more of the "man" . . .i have those basic instincts, and feelings. The need to care for I suppose. iunno ahaha probably looking anywhere from 30-45% sex, and the rest of it is 70-55% :\ What can i say? __________________ Never argue with idiots, in the end they will just beat you with their experience.

01-28-2008, 08:20 PM	#4 (permalink)
attore Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Georgia Age: 19 Gender: Posts: 111	Spooning is important to me __________________ “I think vests are all about protection. You know what I mean? Like a lifevest protects you from drowning and bulletproof vests protect you from getting shot and the sweatervest protects you from pretty girls. ‘Leave me alone. Can’t you see I’m cold just right here?’ - Demetri Martin

01-28-2008, 10:23 PM	#8 (permalink)
t.A.T.u. Official GTF Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: U.S.A. Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 608	To me, sex, eventhough I've never had it lol, is really important. Sex, to me, is more than just sex, it's making love, being able to show how comfortable you are with the person you love; comfortable meaning you feel okay and comfortable with getting naked with them, no clothes on, doing stuff you wouldn't want to do with anyone else but him/her. It shows just how much you love the one you're with and that you want to give him/her everything and anything, pleasure, and a want for them. In my eyes, relationships without love-making is just not really a relationship. Sure, you can have compasionship and loyalty, but, to me, making love just brings it out all the way, in a way which you can't do without it. I'm not just talking about a simple fuck either, that means nothing. Idk, I'm prolly not making any sense but I can't really put it into words, the way I feel about it so.....yea! lol Also, don't get me wrong, a relationship needs all those other things, but to me, making love is really important. __________________ t.A.T.u. ~ The Revolution of our Lives ~ t.A.T.u. «Be in love. Be yourself. We are.» ~t.A.T.u. YuLen believer! Watch 220 music video here Last edited by t.A.T.u.; 01-28-2008 at 10:26 PM.

01-29-2008, 12:55 AM	#9 (permalink)
Clint Face Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Utah... thats all ill say... Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 53	Why reduce everything Why is it that individuals reduce everything down to sex, isn't it more than that… to me it is, and it somewhat offends me when, that is all some individuals think of… I'm a bit of a nympho and I'm not even that bad, its more, just the joking, talking, referring it to even the most simplest of things… talking of it as if it was something so light or common to an everyday activity… but its not… see for me, and don't take me wrong, if I wanted it there are enough people that I know, to where if I wanted it I could have sex everyday more than once… and I will be honest its my regret but I've had that, but why… doesn't it or wouldn't it loose its meaning, and maybe its that very reason that other people don't treasure even the word itself, as I do… for me sex is like a kiss but more….. A kiss… a unity, and somewhat of an agreement between two individuals… stating a form of love that is deeper than that of just the love that two friends share…it says the things that you cant find in word… "telling secrets but with our mouths"… when linking with another in this form, you feel the first signs of what it is to truly be in love… to be alive, with another person… a kiss can tell you everything there is to know… if it can grow or not, you begin to feel this in you heart… Sex is more, why do you sleep with someone or why do you make out, its not just because its fun or it has its pleasure, but more its because you care, and you love them, and you want to show them in that special way, that most treasured thing the one thing you can give or take according to the one you love… at least that is what it should be… for me its not about the sex, it is fun and the icing on the cake… but for me, when I like some one I'm not thinking about sleeping with them, but more just how I am going to treasure every second I am with them… how I can make those moments last forever… I just enjoy it all, whether it is just sitting with one another or being able to sit and kiss the individual to hold them down and talk to them, but when I do get to the extent of the whole sex thing its because I want to share something deeper… it is because I have tried to keep it a treasure and safe and a special moment, a proclamation to all for the two that dare to love, when it comes down to it, I feel its time, not only for just sex but more… when sleeping with me I tell you the world and just everything that it is to me… and then how much of that world you mean to me where you fit into the broad picture… how things really are between the two of us… sex isn't always about the pleasure or fun you can have, but more its about the care, the desire to be, it is about two individuals and the love they share… Clear Caution: I am only Human…we are individuals in this world, we are all on a rail system of principals, standard, ways by which we live our lives, constantly moving never ending. Though there are times when the rails buckle and weaken, causing us to lose control and get week our selves… then most of what we are is lost, but always to be remembered is we aren't far gone… I've failed at this so many times… sex is more but I myself have abused it. Regrettably it is to my shame that I do get weak and forget some of the things that I should and do stand for, and even stand against… but the love that I have for a individual is overwhelming and often a reason someone will leave. I am too much at times… even for my self. I just feel they are my one and ill share all that I can and feel… its love not just sex. But as I said sometime misunderstood… I am sorry If I have pushed you, if I have not waited until the proper timing for some of the things that we have done... if I have Dated you and not have done as you would have liked or had wished me to… Please forgive me, if you have been a victim of the past… of the old me… of those times when senses have become overwhelming. Then it is to you that I am sorry. And to others a warning, not to stay away, just simply to understand… we all have bodies in our closets… __________________ Clint... Oh Tangled Weaves In Web

01-28-2008, 07:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
Kainspoher Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Texas! Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 147	Sex is truly the last thing I'm looking for, I'm more for companionship.

01-28-2008, 08:36 PM	#5 (permalink)
sexyjoshiepoo Banned Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: lakeside, sandiego Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 113	well sex is not much important at all..its just a way u can show love for ur bf and stuff for fun and more...i weather be cuddling up with my man and kiss and watch movies and have a good time,,,someone to love me ..protect me and more..i never had a bfyet so this is my hopes

01-28-2008, 09:34 PM	#6 (permalink)
Lil Boi Is SexyX Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 43	To me sex is that important but it does play a role in my relationships. But I also find other things important to like just chilling with you're bf, talking, cuddling.. etc.

01-28-2008, 09:50 PM	#7 (permalink)
Jason4chris Official GTF Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Penticton, BC Age: 18 Posts: 37	Sex to me is just another way of sharing your love with the person you care about. Just like snuggling watching a movie, or holding each other beside a camp fire. It doesn't matter to me if we have sex or not, just as long as I'm with the guy that I care about.

01-29-2008, 01:04 AM	#10 (permalink)
Clint Face Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Utah... thats all ill say... Age: 18 Gender: Posts: 53	that was an article that i wrote some time ago. and like everything else has found its place in my blogs. you see Marcia said that there are three factors to any relationship; Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. you must strive to achieve all of these if you really want a healthy relationship. however i think that there is timing for everything, and sex is often abused... but i think that if you love each other, it wont be only that, but the love as well... and of course all the other little corks you experience. im with you on this one... i dont think you have to have it. in moderation yes, but think about it... is sex all that its about. can you two just be with out it, to simply live? __________________ Clint... Oh Tangled Weaves In Web

01-29-2008, 01:32 AM	#11 (permalink)
mycole6 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Kokomo, Indiana Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 130	I believe sexy is only purposable when the moment leads to it, its not important a all unless your love wills it. Sex may be great as a feeling but it has no effect or purpose among your relationship? =P __________________ Creed Bonivard http://creedbonivard.tripod.com

01-29-2008, 12:01 PM	#12 (permalink)
Seth Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: manchestaaaaaoor Gender: Posts: 921	Absolute Necessity. __________________ myspace.com/kthxdan

01-29-2008, 07:22 PM	#13 (permalink)
DollieBoy15 Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Chicago, IL Age: 16 Gender: Posts: 18	Its a need, i guess. I dont expect it on the first date- But I think it's the ultimate way you and your partner know you are comfortable with each other enough to do that. Once someone is fine with having sex with me, it just proves they love me. I can normally tell when a guy wants only sex and nothing else. ...But unfortunately, I'm weak. xD I love sex, but I try not to abuse it. It basically depends on the circumstances. -Anthony __________________ "Slinkies and Humans are much alike, Especially since they're only funny when you push them down stairs." www.myspace.com/riggitymortis

02-04-2008, 10:29 PM	#14 (permalink)
dragon072891 GTF Donator! Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: mobile, Alabama Gender: Posts: 1,163	not at all... im more of a mental/personaliaty person,, , sex is just a bonus __________________ life is what you make it, it dose'nt come pre packaged,, so i say do a good job because your the only one that cant escape it

02-05-2008, 02:56 PM	#15 (permalink)
make out kid Official GTF Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: leeds Age: 17 Gender: Posts: 179	its not the most important thing at the start, but as the realtionship gets serious should be a natural thing to do i see it as

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